What should I do with my life? | Charlie Parker | TEDxHeriotWattUniversity

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Olivia
Olivia 2 yıl önce
When he said "you're gonna die in 2 weeks" I felt relief for not having to decide what I want to do with my life. That just shows how much I'm struggling with this question but also how much it means to me😭😭
Michelle Priest
Michelle Priest 3 gün önce
@D0sxx Gaming I’ve been thinking about you. I hope you’re okay.
Michelle Priest
Michelle Priest 3 gün önce
@Mysti thank you for letting me know. It changed my perception of myself. I understand why I never felt like I belonged. School and work is designed for the traditional path. I have a lot more peace now understanding that it’s not me, and I’m not alone
Mysti
Mysti 4 gün önce
@Michelle Priest "Maybe try looking up multipotentialite and multi-hyphenate if you’re not familiar with those terms." You changed my life, right now, with that phrase. I was unsure of what I was, of who I should be, now it turns out that I have to find my own ways to simply be the unique and unrepeatable result of everything I adore, thank you.
Pedro Planas
Pedro Planas 3 aylar önce
@Rabin Nepal Look for Jesus He is the answer!
Rabin Nepal
Rabin Nepal 3 aylar önce
The most difficult thing in life is to live life...ahhh i hate my situation now....very much confused to what should i do next....i hate it,,i hate it,,i hate it,,,,god please give me that strength to be mentally strong and no stress so that i could walk in the path of my dream...ahhhh ahhh ahhh
Rajesh Padamsey
Rajesh Padamsey 4 yıl önce
very well said and good humor. The crowd probably skipped lunch
swigswag
swigswag Yıl önce
you can't hear the crowd bc of the mic and stuff. the crowd is responsive, this is just a 2D video.
Alexander
Alexander 3 yıl önce
He didn't do proper stops in the first jokes and he was speaking too fast.
Savanah
Savanah 4 yıl önce
How did no one even giggle at him?! If I was in the audience, my random chuckles would definitely be heard. He did a great job! Very personal and relatable. Loved it
CandyHearts
CandyHearts Aylar önce
@Terry P Yeah, in the beginning he said "someone said yes" but I didn't hear anything
Terry P
Terry P Aylar önce
There was a lot of laughter but the audience wasn't recorded very well.
Accyber
Accyber 4 yıl önce
These kinds of crowds are the reason why people are uncomfortable with public speaking lol
Lindbo
Lindbo Aylar önce
He had everybody’s undivided attention.
Vineeta A
Vineeta A 9 aylar önce
Precisely my thoughts!! Painful crowd! His jokes are good!
Kilgore Trout
Kilgore Trout Yıl önce
To be fair the speaker is just awful at comedy and delivers nothing but empty platitudes.
Stone Money
Stone Money Yıl önce
Got them thinking is all
scwyd
scwyd 2 yıl önce
I know right. I feel bad for the guy 😂.
Kim
Kim 2 yıl önce
Im 16. I fear the future so much. Almost everyday someone asks me, “what do you want to be?” Or “what are you doing after high school?” and I answer with a laugh a “I don’t know don’t ask me.” From afar just brushing it off, but really that question sticks with me, filling my head and distracting me for the rest of the day.I ask myself it all the time. I beat myself up over it. That question makes me want to just end it all. Because I really don’t know what I want to be. You see I’m not good at anything. I haven’t found my “gift.” I’m not outstanding at anything and I’m not exactly terrible at anything. I guess you Could say I’m a jack of all trades and master of none. What do I like? I like a lot of things. I like photography, videography, drums, guitars, pianos, instruments in general, travelling, designing, laughing, volleyball, badminton, soccer, basketball, learning languages, writing, reading. I enjoy so many things and each one equally. Dreams I’ve had include wanting to be a lawyer an actress a model a princess a an entrepreneur a successful sports player a drummer for a band a traveller a writer a director a doctor a dentist a chiropractor a TRshowr. I don’t even know any more. I hate this. I don’t know what I’m saying. I just get so down sometimes about this. Like really down. Usually it’s just saddening but sometimes I lay in bed at night and cry. I cry like the type where it gets so hard to bloody breathe. The type where I’m rocking myself to calm down, with my hand over my mouth so no one can hear me. I watch videos about my purpose, my dream, what I want to be. I cry so hard that eventually i run out of tears to cry. I’m so lost. I’m so scared. This year is a very important year. I am year 12. This means it is my second to last year in high school. The grades I get from this year will be the focus of universities. I’m doing physics biology chemistry maths and english. I gave up art and history because of my fear. I’m taking all the sciences just to make sure I have something to fall back on in the future. But I don’t enjoy the sciences at all. I don’t enjoy maths. And I kind of like English. I don’t know why I’m ranting. It’s just .... I guess I’m hoping that maybe some angel will find this or maybe my guardian angel might reply. Maybe the answer might come up in a reply. I don’t know. I’m running out of time. I am really really scared. I don’t know if I can do this.
Joseph Vibhu
Joseph Vibhu 2 gün önce
@Kim what happened? what are you doing now??
_.xomahixo._
_.xomahixo._ 29 gün önce
@ONLY HUMAN heyy..i was just randomly going through the comments and I saw your reply..idk if you even remember this comment of yours or not..but I'm actually in the same situation..idk what to do with my life but the only thing Ik is.. i want to help others and make their lives better..but idk how? I'm gonna start my college this year but I'm so confused about the courses and all..Have you found the answer to this question?
paulina 🍒
paulina 🍒 Aylar önce
And how are you now?
Aditya Jaiswal
Aditya Jaiswal Aylar önce
Well... To be honest,being an Indian teenager in 11th grade,I ABSOLUTELY confide to it! 🥺❤
itsfridaydaniel
itsfridaydaniel Aylar önce
@Vobser lmao bro, thats the advice we were waiting for 🤡🤡
One Person
One Person Yıl önce
I thought I wanted to be a 'successful career woman' because that's what everyone expected of me. But then I fell in love and quit college and became a wife and mother. Some were disappointed in me that I chose that path. I am very happy with this and now feel I am changing the world by raising good people, who will in turn make more good people to populate the world. At the age of 47, I still don't know 'what I want to be' as a career, but that no longer matters because I have been and still am a good mother, and I look forward to helping my grandchildren til I die. I have other non-mother work that takes up my time, but that's just busywork.
Tamara Esther
Tamara Esther 20 gün önce
i wonder why people don't get paid if they are raising babies. its a very valuable thing in society. i think the government should pay stay at home parents
Roger B
Roger B 2 aylar önce
A good mother is far more important than a "job" or "career" A good mother is a calling.
Beauty Begum
Beauty Begum 4 aylar önce
The most rewarding job in the world is being a mum- you can't replace the hugs the laughter and the smiles or the goodnight kisses.
T'was an old username and I'll change it soon.
T'was an old username and I'll change it soon. 9 aylar önce
These are the happiest people alive. I'm 25, single, and I wish I could be a father and/or just live in a village being a wise elder teacher of a small community. Maybe I want to be a counselor of elementary, middle, or high school.
Delon Weird
Delon Weird Yıl önce
The thing that truly matters is you being happy no matter what people expect of you✨
Lyrical Cereal
Lyrical Cereal 4 yıl önce
This guy is so nice and smart, I wish the crowd showed more respect towards him
Arjan Tv
Arjan Tv Aylar önce
I think they showed respect by not laughing when he says anything smart or sad... i saw others they said something very deep or sad and these clowns keep laughing for no reason lol
Klissaura R
Klissaura R 4 aylar önce
No he’s not but he is a good speaker
Jimmy Reyz
Jimmy Reyz 5 yıl önce
I get so frustrated because I know I can be amazing at something. only I have no clue what it is! I hate not knowing what I should be doing.
Poisson 667
Poisson 667 Yıl önce
There's no point in doing Anything if we'll die...so ig everyone shd study/research about genetic engineering,mind upload,molecular biology,etc and invest in cryopreservation.
Riccardo Civello
Riccardo Civello Yıl önce
@Dsiq I feel like you. Can I ask you if have you find the right job for you three years later from this comment?
Jessica Love
Jessica Love Yıl önce
So glad im not the only one
emmanuel moses
emmanuel moses Yıl önce
Exactly the same with me!
Phuc Trinh
Phuc Trinh Yıl önce
Relax. 90% people would never achieve anything in their life and die without a house or mansion. We come from nothing and will return to nothing.
ItsKgan
ItsKgan 4 yıl önce
I actually thought he was funny, but this crowd was pretty cruel.
KelvinxG
KelvinxG Yıl önce
@Kempshaw well said
Rogomerlin the Gamer
Rogomerlin the Gamer Yıl önce
I guess the crowd are full of people who don't know what they want
Shelby K
Shelby K Yıl önce
I was thinking the same thing lol
fiona campbell
fiona campbell Yıl önce
I think there was just no mic facing the audience tbh...
Duane Huff | Write Your Own Ticket
Duane Huff | Write Your Own Ticket Yıl önce
I agree, they were a tough crowd. It's a shame because his message was spot on.
choco flavored cookies 56
choco flavored cookies 56 5 yıl önce
wow what a tough crowd not even one guy who decides to give him a pitty chuckle
The Boss
The Boss 2 yıl önce
Jonas Charif he should’ve made the lecture as cut and dry as possible just to spite the crowd
Jillian lea
Jillian lea 3 yıl önce
I heard them laughing
10arcs
10arcs 3 yıl önce
odibex every ted talk uses the same mic buddy lol and if u listen closely you can hear faint laughs
odibex
odibex 3 yıl önce
Sad Soapy Cow - I know there's no way you would have of actually knowing that but why don't you? you don't know what the crowd reaction was or wasn't, and you don't know what kind of mic he was using. your friend may not've even known wtf they were talking about. maybe they bombed and were trying to make excuses. that's neither here nor their. you're basically a liar becasue you're telling people something is true that you have no way of knowing.
10arcs
10arcs 3 yıl önce
odibex no it’s because of the microphone a TRshowr I watch did a ted talk and everyone said the same thing about the crowd but he said it was the mic picking up just his voice
Justin Hart
Justin Hart 5 yıl önce
But he knew what he wanted all along. His doubt stopped him. That's different then not knowing what you want
Nikesh Sapkota
Nikesh Sapkota 2 yıl önce
You think about what you want you get it just to know it is nothing.
Samantha Lidster
Samantha Lidster 3 yıl önce
Ish. He just noticed there was reoccurring theme in his imaginary scenario. So you could do the same and you notice that you might not have a specific career but reoccurring want for something creative and could add up to you wanting to do something that seems unrealistic but is really what you want to do but have self beliefs that have stopped you from realising it. Unless you literally have no clue how you would spend any money but chances you'll he able to answer something.
Yuliana Martens
Yuliana Martens 3 yıl önce
I know exactly what you want. You want to know what you want. Your welcome. Follow your dream on knowing what you want. Jk just have patience, do different activities, is it music you love, singing, or becoming a pilot, a designer, a baker, a chef, an engineer, a scientist, an acter, a person that speaks publically about certain things, have your own library, a zoo keeper, farmer, horseback riding, an inventor, someone who sells vehicles, make videos on youtube about the video games you're playing, shoe designer, a husband, a father, an olympic runner, an olympic athlete, personal trainer, nutritioner, someone who tells the news, there are so many options. Try more than 1.
Edible Resource
Edible Resource 3 yıl önce
I think he's saying that when you listen to this inner voice thing; you find what you like to do, and you should do more of that and get more involved with that.
Kshesho
Kshesho 4 yıl önce
Not necessarily. You could THINK you don't know what you want, but the answer could be hidden in your mind, and you just don't have the key to it yet.
el perro reggae
el perro reggae 4 yıl önce
I like what he says, but I still truly don't know what I'd miss the most
Leonarduxis 12
Leonarduxis 12 Yıl önce
I'm not sure if this will help, this worked with me. Try to think about what you'll regret.
Ff_M
Ff_M Yıl önce
The only thing i would miss is my family. I’m not that scared of dying 😂
Jessica Love
Jessica Love Yıl önce
Same
Jordan McHighlander
Jordan McHighlander 2 yıl önce
I had a hard time with that scenario too. Something I did was ask myself "If I could have total and complete mastery of three skills of my choice, what would they be?" My choices were art (specifically sketching, illustration, and digital illustration), writing (In a variety of genres), and the ability to make trance music. Then I went back to the scenario you mentioned: "What will I miss the most?" For each one, I missed being able to use my skills, experiences, and imagination to connect with people.
Samuel Lyngdoh
Samuel Lyngdoh 3 yıl önce
Hey it's a celeb. I now listen to your music dude
123 123
123 123 5 yıl önce
What if you don't know what you want? There are so many videos talking about chasing what you want. That's great. What if you don't know???
Gum
Gum 9 aylar önce
@Stephon Frazier that's really inspirational, thank you
Jfgkkug Sdjooii
Jfgkkug Sdjooii Yıl önce
@Stephon Frazier this really looks helpfull
Rich
Rich Yıl önce
Same here. I read the comments that say “You really do know.” I beg to differ - at least in my case, I do not. I hope we all figure it out. Be well!
Eli Kasirer
Eli Kasirer Yıl önce
@Jake Wawrzynski hope you are successful.
Hoop and Roll
Hoop and Roll Yıl önce
Just figure out what you're enjoying to do the most on your free time! It's that easy
bianca canas
bianca canas 4 yıl önce
I wanted to become a polyglot since i was a child. Chinese was my priority. After 3 years of korean my passion is slowly fading because i struggle with it. This talk reminded me that I’m the one stopping myself from doing this. I speak 3 languages. Two of those had to be learnt. I will be a translator and i will work in immigration. Its what i love. Thank you. ❤️ Im 21 btw
Juli Caminos
Juli Caminos Yıl önce
No way!! I feel the same way about the german language and i'm studying to be a translator as well!
Crappy Old Account
Crappy Old Account Yıl önce
What do you speak
Nuriyya91
Nuriyya91 2 yıl önce
You will, Bianca. You can do it girl
all my dreams came to fateaway
all my dreams came to fateaway 2 yıl önce
@Dark Notion why
Dark Notion
Dark Notion 3 yıl önce
did your Korean passion went away?
Federico Heller
Federico Heller 4 yıl önce
"At what point did 4 year old Iron Man became maybe a farmer?", I loved that phrase... maybe the perfect summary for the talk (and a good alternative title, too)
Sushmita Khole
Sushmita Khole 3 yıl önce
"It isn't that I lacked ambition . I had plenty of gunpowder in my bones to burn the world ten times over. It is that I lacked the spark . And that was my greatest worry - that the fire in me would never roar because it never found a reason to." This is my life situation right now ! It sucks 😥
Unknown wonknU
Unknown wonknU 2 yıl önce
I actually really appreciated this I realized the first thing that came to my mind was “I can’t cook anymore when I die, I can’t learn new recipes and make people happy with my food, food brings people together but how can I do this in such little time?” As well as “could I make the world a little better by joining the marines in the culinary field? And that’s where I think I realized that I want to be the first culinary artist marine from the Chicago area in Illinois.
Theresa A
Theresa A 3 yıl önce
I just dropped out of college. Partly it was because of self-doubt, but mostly it was because I felt unfulfilled. Normally I find TEDx Talks like these to be a bit much, but I liked the image of thinking: 'what would I miss'. Really useful for me now trying to figure out what I'm going to fill my time with now that I finally have the time to consider other options.
Agermanyguy
Agermanyguy 3 yıl önce
I don’t care about the crowd. This guy is amazing. He is so right and it affected my life :)
Morsilva
Morsilva 3 yıl önce
Whenever I get asked what I want to do with my life, what I want to become; I always say I don't know. Not because there isn't anything I want to become, but because I don't know anything I want to become that sounds reasonable. My dream isn't some grant thing that's hard to achieve. I want to be an author. But I never tell people that, because all my life all I've ever been told when I do express that dream is how hard it's going to be and how I need something else to support myself. Even when in reality it isn't, I still feel like it's an impossible thing, because I've listened to people who tell's me it might not be possible. I've started to fight back against those doubts, and I feel much lighter already. I won't let people, intentionally or not, tell me that something is too hard or unrealistic, when I want it. I want to give my best shot at it, and that should be all that matters.
02missed
02missed 6 gün önce
Hey, I do't know if this might help you but amazon has an option where you can upload your books and they will print it for you. After finishing a book or even while writing I think it would be a good idea to promote it on social media through little pov in reels or TikTok. The power of social media marketing is huge.. wishing you strength to not give up and a lot of creativity! 🫶🏻
Joe Kensei
Joe Kensei Aylar önce
Maybe your answer is that you don't know because you cant get a concrete answer because you see in yourself in different aspects of yourself. Maybe that is your cue to be an author of fiction, taking a different perspective every time through a different character.
B Magill
B Magill Yıl önce
I love writing and all its stressful complexities. I wanted to be a novelist. Now I don’t know if I can even achieve stability of any kind. Best of luck in your dreams from the bottom of my heart.
llol gp
llol gp 3 yıl önce
Same for music; hang in there.
Jen Mishelin
Jen Mishelin 4 yıl önce
The combination of his jokes and the crowd and his reaction was great... You know, I was picturing myself as a game programmer when you started that visualization thing but then it instantly went away when you said we'd die in 2 weeks in this scenario. All I could think of was missing my partner and family and how I'd just spend all my time with them... I have no clue what to do with this now, being a housewife is a luxury we probably couldn't afford... So I guess my dream is being rich enough to be a housewife.
no one u know
no one u know 3 yıl önce
I just turned 15 and I think I've finally figured out exactly what I want to do with my life. I glad videos like these exist cause it's a hard question to find the answer 2
Austin Varley
Austin Varley 4 yıl önce
You explained this so perfect! Thanks for the great points about when people are down about who they want to be and go against themselves. I'll remember this for next time!
C Naber
C Naber 2 yıl önce
Oh my, how powerful this talk is. The picture of the inner voice and inner doubt really moved something in me. Wow. Thank you so much, Mr Parker!
Sara
Sara Yıl önce
So true..the most difficult part is knowing what you want to do...but when you know it, you can t have excuses...just go for that!
Eric Renquist
Eric Renquist 3 yıl önce
The story about him as a teenager not knowing what he wanted to do was great. It's so relatable. I wish he would tell the full thing.
fullsun
fullsun 5 aylar önce
When I did the visualization, I cried when I opened my eyes. Really brought me back to the main reason why I want to be a writer in the first place.
Sourabh Singh
Sourabh Singh 2 yıl önce
Thanks Charlie, appreciate your story and the willingness to improve others. All the best with filmmaking.
Danny Sze
Danny Sze 3 yıl önce
I quit my architect job and work on my childhood dream to be a portrait painter. Off course, I got a lot of part time side hustles to support me financially. However, fullfilling your childhood dream is one of the biggest achievement in life.
Malus :::
Malus ::: Yıl önce
My childhood dream was to become an architect. But then I threw it out because of the stress and unemployment rates among architects in my country. This video got me thinking about my future since I’m 18 now with no career prospects and plans whatsoever.
cheska fernandez
cheska fernandez 3 yıl önce
Thank you for this wonderful speech sir. I need this right now and I think you really help me to listen to my inner voice and do what I'm passionate about and that is to make A BIG IMPACT TO THE WORLD AND BY THAT I MEAN SPREADING IMPORTANT MESSAGES TO PEOPLE'S WELLNESS AND WELL-BEING.
Marco Sander
Marco Sander Yıl önce
If you guys want something practical then do this - 1. Write down all your interests. 2. Research and take action on each interest per week. So one interest for each week. 3. Journal your feelings everyday about that interest. 4. Then decide to choose one and fully focus on it!
Sarah
Sarah 4 yıl önce
Honestly one of the best TED talks I've listened to so far. Really put things into perspective for me :) amazing
Sabrina Caflisch
Sabrina Caflisch 3 yıl önce
I want to be a filmmaker. A writer. Or no, I don't "want" that. I'm GOING to create stories and bring them to life by movies or books. Or maybe even BOTH. I can do it. It won't be easy. I'm from Switzerland, English isn't my mothertongue, so the way to true success is heavy. But you know what. I'll take that way anyway! And you can too!
kooolkidninjamaster
kooolkidninjamaster 2 yıl önce
Become an accountant. A filmmaker needs to know how to budget. It will help more
Elusion Sounds
Elusion Sounds 2 yıl önce
This is the kind of mentality everyone needs! It's so hard and even more so when people don't know what they want to do, but the idea is to keep trying and being positive about it so when it doesn't work out, we don't stop trying something else.
Kalmanaarta mana
Kalmanaarta mana 3 yıl önce
PERIODT!
dream hope keep going
dream hope keep going 3 yıl önce
YES
Bas Dijkstra
Bas Dijkstra Yıl önce
Great story and great speaker. This is one that definitely hits home. In my early 40's now, successful in my career, recognized in my field, but I can't stop asking 'is this really it?'. Time to do some soul searching using the tips from this talk..
NiQuil
NiQuil 8 aylar önce
Same here, ben je er al achter? Jordan Peterson geeft als optie om gewoon te beginnen met je directe omgeving: Welke 1-5 dingen kan ik aan mezelf vriendelijk vragen om te doen die mijn leven morgen al ietsje beter maken? Ook het commentaar hierboven vond ik goed "If I could have total and complete mastery of three skills of my choice, what would they be?" Een andere goede was "Begin, het hoeft niet perfect te zijn. Begin zonder dat je alles al weet."
Chariot Cartoons
Chariot Cartoons 3 yıl önce
I like how the next video is "stop searching for your passion"
Florentino Perez
Florentino Perez Yıl önce
Really, what's the link?
مدري ايش اسمي نفسي
مدري ايش اسمي نفسي Yıl önce
Lol mine too
GreatWaveFan
GreatWaveFan Yıl önce
_uSe SyNtHeSis!_
taha qarib
taha qarib Yıl önce
Same 😂💀
quarter-life crisis
quarter-life crisis 2 yıl önce
lmao same
Lucy Liu
Lucy Liu Yıl önce
Damn, I usually zone out during ted talks even when I only listen with my eyes closed but this time, I was also playing a game with this video in the background and I stopped the game. I started focusing on this video and visualized myself and my future based on what he said by the end of the video... Something in my mind actually clicked. Thank you! I enjoyed this video so much... Crowd was kind of lame though.
*savvy*
*savvy* 3 yıl önce
Okay, wow. Just discovered this video and THIS LITERALLY MADE ME REALIZE WHAT I REALLY WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE!! Just... just like that. Like magic. That's crazy. For so long I've been trying to be a nurse, taking the college classes and going through the motions. But, I always have some sort of crisis where I doubt and rethink everything I'm doing, like, at least once a semester. I think this is because I never really wanted to be a nurse as badly as I've always wanted to be a writer or an artist, a storyteller. I've been dabbling in writing since I was a kid (I'm talking elementary school where I wanted to write my "life's story" lol), but writing is rocky and might not pay the bills-- so I turned to nursing. Enjoyable enough, but not as fun and exciting as getting a new story idea or finding the perfect character art on Pinterest that reflects a scene I created. So, just WOW. I'm so happy I watched this video. I don't know how, and I'm not sure how long or when exactly... but I want to tell a story just like the one's I've always loved. Thanks so much Charlie Parker. (':
JIM ROHN
JIM ROHN 2 aylar önce
You wrote this 3 years earlier I am not sure if you would see this but if you did see this please tell me what you doing rn?
S Star
S Star 8 aylar önce
Just self-publish your own books and sell on Amazon :-)
Jackiboyx3
Jackiboyx3 5 yıl önce
Wow this really helped me finding out what I want to do I'm just going into high school so I really have no plan for my future but I kind of really want to start my own studio and work on animation projects because I really like drawing and making music and making up stories and I feel like that's just the perfect thing for me but my inner doubt me otherwise. But thanks to this I can dismiss those thoughts, and even if that fails, I have other things I'm good at that I love doing!
JoFlo
JoFlo 4 yıl önce
I'm stuck too... I'm 23 yrs old and I have no idea. I'm on my 3rd yr of college and just taking classes to take them. I need to pick something but also needs a good pay. I dont want to be that person that hates their job but gets paid very well. Its hard to balance the two out :/ very lost.
Rafly Salim
Rafly Salim Yıl önce
How are you now dude? Everything ok?
Calin Stanciu
Calin Stanciu Yıl önce
@Doffy Traffy hey, how are you now? i'm 22, also on my last year of college, failing on my majors and i also think i have depression and anxiety. it's been a year since you commented this, can you share with us the experiences u've been through? i really hope this reply from mine finds you well and happy
Calin Stanciu
Calin Stanciu Yıl önce
@JoFlo hey bud, how are you now? can you tell me what u've been through since u posted this? i'm 22 years old and i can relate so much with your comment. hope this reply finds you well and happy
ooievaar 67
ooievaar 67 Yıl önce
@JustSomeNerd there are no winners, nor "losers". Everyone has their own struggle. Dont judge, finding joy in what you do is better then in what to do, The 2nd will come in time and presents itself
IAmLegend
IAmLegend Yıl önce
No just pick your passion it’s not about pay. As I’m typing this I really I’m 2 years too late. I hope you figured it out
TheBigJpimpin
TheBigJpimpin 2 yıl önce
You made me realize what I want to be! Thank you Charlie!!
Oluwamayowa Kolawole
Oluwamayowa Kolawole Yıl önce
I remember prospecting this univerisity for a partnership! Love what they are doing there
manon
manon 4 yıl önce
Surely one of the best Ted Talks I've watched so far. Thank you for this.
Muted Alpha Behavior
Muted Alpha Behavior 4 yıl önce
WOO! I love this. I'm a filmmaker and when he said his dream was film i got chills. this makes me so happy
Cossette Orehek
Cossette Orehek 3 yıl önce
Thank you so much for creating this video I feel the encouragement to achieve my goals. I am now going to create a journal of my inner voices wants so I can narrow down my path in life. Thank you.
MEL_KO Official
MEL_KO Official 4 yıl önce
Like others, i also searching what my dream is. But watching many ted talk, i realise that waiting/deciding for the RIGHT dreams is the hard part. Becase nothing is right or wrong. I have a good career teaching kids but i do have a dream to learn more speaking skill with people, to have friends, and be a wonderful wife at home. The problem is i have to arrange my time, before i get carried away by the work.
Sahil Rally
Sahil Rally 4 yıl önce
Thanks for sharing your insights, especially the idea for getting the answer for what I want in life. Cheers !!!
Pragya Mandal
Pragya Mandal 4 yıl önce
You're such a great speaker. You portrayed everything. Visualizing is the key. Thank you so much
Pierre Stephens
Pierre Stephens 3 yıl önce
I love this! My goal is also to be a filmmaker and screenwriter. Thanks for inspiring me! 💯
Random Skye Roses
Random Skye Roses 3 yıl önce
I want that too. What kind of films do you wanna make?
astheravencrows
astheravencrows 7 yıl önce
Great lecture, but what a horrible crowd
AP da crashtronaut
AP da crashtronaut 3 aylar önce
I got bored after a minute
xNight Hawk
xNight Hawk 5 aylar önce
I was like is there even a crowd there?? This dude was hilarious, absolutely dead f****** audience
RaZoRFoX 396
RaZoRFoX 396 11 aylar önce
@Money Limo Its true though, they dont have any humor
Shelby K
Shelby K Yıl önce
I know right
renegade2592
renegade2592 2 yıl önce
Dude that's so true
Salpi Vartivarian
Salpi Vartivarian 3 yıl önce
This is one of the best TED/TEDx talks I've seen in a while. and the comments are also worth reading. :)
canner samson
canner samson 3 yıl önce
Know i have the vision to get what i really want in life and turn it to reality! Thanks for your meaningful story bro!
Hammad Naeem
Hammad Naeem 3 yıl önce
Good humour , wonderful build up and amazing mental exercise.
Ashley Zacahula
Ashley Zacahula 4 yıl önce
As I did the mirror exercise, I went into this deep concentration of who I was on the other side of the mirror. I was dressed in business attire, somewhere in China, in a nice 5 star hotel. It made me tear a little because I’ve always wanted to be a business woman and travel and I forgot what my dream was all along. Now... it’s driving me crazy in not knowing what steps I need to take and that’s something for me to figure out. I have my B.A. that’s a start I guess! Thanks for this. Any suggestions/ advice are welcomed!
Ankan Senapati
Ankan Senapati 7 aylar önce
Wow Dude 🌱
Nathan Ybarra
Nathan Ybarra 3 yıl önce
Really inspiring words. Really appreciate it
Romy M
Romy M 3 yıl önce
So inspirational❤️✨
Cyrus Anushirvan Faizi
Cyrus Anushirvan Faizi 4 yıl önce
Well said! Well said! Really had a huge impact on me. But it truly matters how I want that impact to affect me
S
S Aylar önce
I'm shocked people don't know what they want? My problem is I DO and I want it too badly...it's painful to wait. And the worst thing, is getting it. It's been said "The only thing worse than not getting what you want is getting it and finding out you still aren't happy." I totally agree. It turns out, you may know what you want...but one can never know what one needs. That's the struggle!
Pranjal
Pranjal Yıl önce
Damn that was powerful…From believing you could be iron man to dreaming about being a farmer!
Marsun Alvarez
Marsun Alvarez 3 yıl önce
Ur speech reaches to the deepest of my heart , thank you for your presentation im glad that I'm here. Bless u all and pls include me in ur prayer, I'm From Philippines give my regards
Mahindra Drive
Mahindra Drive 2 yıl önce
Even if the crowd didnt then lets cheer up for him, he spoke really well.👏👏
1,000 subs with no videos
1,000 subs with no videos 4 yıl önce
The crowd sounds like they were high schoolers who were forced to come watch a presentation in the auditorium.
Shelby K
Shelby K Yıl önce
Totally
Chibi Cretster
Chibi Cretster 2 yıl önce
There is no crowd. Only one woman
1935 Akeel Mulla
1935 Akeel Mulla 3 yıl önce
Your name have 1000 subscribers but have only 51. Why this????
Victor's Vids
Victor's Vids 3 yıl önce
Keep this man at 420 likes
Dennis D.
Dennis D. 3 yıl önce
yea true ;)
Poetry Pool
Poetry Pool 2 yıl önce
I loved this. So imaginative!
Saisaranyya Menon
Saisaranyya Menon 2 yıl önce
Wow, he is so good!! Great talk❤️
BAglamdoll
BAglamdoll Yıl önce
the lunch time punchline is sublime. made me crack up. wish he could hear me. brilliant message. altho i know what i love, i dont know what to make a profession of... watching videos like this are guiding me a bit more.
kiOvO
kiOvO Yıl önce
All i want to do with my life is live a simple and quiet existence, working a humble and modest job that pays decently, have someone i love to care for and care for me, and just be free to explore and learn and grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Unfortunately whenever i hear "what do you want to do with your life" i attach money or contribution or status to it, like others do aswell, and this stops me from expressing what i really want to do. I just want to be happy but i feel like i have to come up with a grand answer and plan and stick with it. ... if you asked me what i wanted to do or be when i was a kid, id say all sorts of things. Animator, dancer, treasure hunter, heck a model on a commercial selling cereal. But now i think about what will pay the bills, what will relieve my family from concern, what will be in demand.
Steven Clark
Steven Clark 3 yıl önce
Brilliant. Well played for getting through that!
Hippie
Hippie 5 yıl önce
this crowd SUCKS. Hes feeding you GOLD
Armed Insurgent
Armed Insurgent Yıl önce
Just shut up 🤦🏻‍♂️ not everyone has the same humour and they were there to gain knowledge not have a laugh
odibex
odibex 3 yıl önce
Sad Soapy Cow - noise like the human voice? what model is it?
10arcs
10arcs 3 yıl önce
The microphone they are using is super high quality and cancels out almost all noise
attorney investor
attorney investor 3 yıl önce
The speaker sucks and his topic has been talk about many times.
S-Mania
S-Mania 3 yıl önce
@don’t click on “Liked Videos”. Doesnt stop you from laughing and having fun while doing so
Is
Is Yıl önce
Thank you, Charlie! I really enjoyed your talk.
holden anderson
holden anderson 4 yıl önce
I have a big passion for graphic design, and I've received alot of praise for my work. I'd be happy living a life as a designer, but I have this feeling that I'm not going to live my life to the fullest, or give myself any legacy. The thought of living a quiet, content life, and dying for nobody outside of your close family to ever remember you had always scared me, and I feel like I'm falling into that trap. If anyone else has had feelings like this, I'd love to hear something to make this all clearer, thanks.
holden anderson
holden anderson Yıl önce
@George G. it's crazy how much my view on this has changed in the few years since I posted this comment. I think my previous thoughts on leaving a legacy were fueled by my ego. Thinking about this makes me realize how much of my view of success was about money. Now I'm at a point where I'm looking forward to living a life not worrying about feeling like I have to make a certain income to impress my parents, or just care about the thoughts of others.
George G.
George G. Yıl önce
What? That's amazing. What scares you is my goal in life. Finding and building a happy family which I can provide to through my job and living a content life is just what it should be. It's only you in the end. People are just blips in the whole existence.
Nick Pastorino
Nick Pastorino 3 yıl önce
Don't focus on being remembered; instead, focus on doing work that will be remembered and your spirit will never die. Sounds cheesy, I know, but its true.
NIMMHATV Rap Beats
NIMMHATV Rap Beats 4 yıl önce
"dying for nobody outside of your close family to ever remember you " maybe that's the big issue in your thinking.. Maybe... You will find someone who is all it needs?
Carson Tyler
Carson Tyler 4 yıl önce
Since you love being a graphics designer, think of your work as your legacy. Make your work standout against the crowd and let your name be known. If you truly wish to be recognized then nothing can stop you. I had these feelings at one point as well, although I am still young, but I know the feeling of wanting to be known and letting others know my work. But then I realized that I preferred to be alone with the ones I love and the thought of living a quiet life didn't scare me anymore. Something that helped me to get past these feelings and not let them take over me, was to write down my accomplishments and the people I have positively affected over the years. No matter how small or how big of an act you do, anything positive will permanently affect that person. For me, my legacy will looking back on how many lives I have changed for the better. Marisa also raises an excellent point by suggesting you start your own company or use your talents for a greater cause. Good luck!
Shana Royal
Shana Royal 3 yıl önce
What you decide to 'do' in all aspects in life dosent make you who you are. You are you. Yourself is your identity not what you do to give yourself your identity. 👍🏼
MinnaPiano
MinnaPiano 5 yıl önce
I really wanted to jump into the screen and be there to applaud and say that he was amazing when he said that he finally did it. gosh this crowd was half asleep
J W
J W 4 yıl önce
Fantastic speech from the heart, thanks ...I am that farmer ....but not yet farming ...refreshing and honest, thanks
Larsman
Larsman 5 yıl önce
Thank you, you helped me putting together a conclusion understanding a part of life
K Kerr
K Kerr 3 aylar önce
This question is unique for each person. There are questions that we can ask ourselves that will help us on our own unique journey. A channel called Align and Inspire did a nice video on this. I found it helpful. She breaks this huge question down into smaller questions, that are not so overwhelming.
Paul verhaak
Paul verhaak Yıl önce
I agree with his analysis for the most part. But I think the inner voice can have more possible dreams and sometimes u just got to choose one. There is not one 'perfect' dream.
exley dragon
exley dragon 4 yıl önce
When I closed my eyes and crossed into that mirror, I imagined myself on a stage as a live producer in front of thousands. I can visually see a massive crowd jumping to the sounds of my EDM, and I mean i've always seen that since the start of 2016. That's why i've been an active producer for 2 years, in hopes to make that dream one day come true. And even though I chose to aim for a degree in psychology, another one of my past times, I have to remember, it doesn't take a degree to play on stage.
Marko Kap
Marko Kap 8 aylar önce
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Agermanyguy
Agermanyguy 3 yıl önce
Do u have an update ? :)
Local Mar
Local Mar 4 yıl önce
Thanks. I really needed to make that decision, and you really helped me with that visualization stuff.
victoria
victoria 4 yıl önce
I low key wanna be a writer, but I’m too scared to write because I know it’ll be cringy...but when I do try to write a really short story I accidentally write like 7 pages when I wanted it to be like 2-3. I also read like 1-2 hours a day I’m obsessed. And it’s funny really because when I was in kindergarten/first grade I wrote books for my teacher and she was my number one supporter. Then she retired the next year, but to this day she’s still my favorite teacher😂😂😂
Palak Mehta
Palak Mehta Yıl önce
Please if you love writing, please please pursue it.
Dot Cassilles
Dot Cassilles Yıl önce
Most published authors say the exact thing you have (about their own work). Writing is a process, the first draft is only the start. I would suggest looking into NaNoWriMo thats National Novel Writing Month. There are challenges for adults and kids, heaps of advice, pep talks, forums for discussion, etc. I hope you keep experimenting with writing. Blessings Dot
Yami Chan
Yami Chan 2 yıl önce
I think anything improves with practice, that's how I became confident and comfortable with myself lol. I used to be insecure about everything. My smile, my walk my face, my body. I used to cover my face, try to "correct" my walk, didn't wear shorts or crop tops or skirts. And then I slowly stopped covering my mouth when I laughed, stopped suppressing my smile and everything else. Now I can talk to people I don't know with ease, and I can wear whatever I want without fear of being judged :3. Just practice man failure comes with success.
VastVoid
VastVoid 2 yıl önce
Write! It’s fun! Even if it’s cringy.
Renz Razon
Renz Razon 3 yıl önce
I hope you continue writing.
n1k0la3
n1k0la3 3 yıl önce
Inner voice - tells you what you enjoy most and what you enjoy least Inner doubt - creates mental barriers, he creates the excuses that stops you doing those things you want to enjoy Those 2 are in constant collision with each other
Garrison Boehl
Garrison Boehl 4 yıl önce
I'm a freshman in high school and I have a passion for music. I decided to join band a little over 3 years ago and it has turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life. I consider myself to be a fairly decent player, given how few years I've been practicing, but I still have many questions about getting/having a job in the music industry, most of which I still can't verbalize. I just hope this talk will help me make a decision and do what is best for me.
all my dreams came to fateaway
all my dreams came to fateaway 2 yıl önce
Hey i know nothing about Music but i love music should i try ?
Tee Stache
Tee Stache 3 yıl önce
What I took out of this was that fear is one helluva motivational emotion.
M
M 3 yıl önce
خلاصة كلامه بالعربي : 1- وقف مع نفسك بصراحه قول وش الي يعجبك ووش تستمتع فيه لما تسويه 2 - لا تسمع لذيك الشخصية تعطيك اعذار تافهه توقفك عن حلمك هو كان له احلام من قبل لكنه تخلا عنها بعد ما حس انها صعبه و مشوارها طويل . لكن لما قرر انها ما يسمح للعذار توقفه قدر يحقق حلمه وصار يسوي افلام وكذا
Sabrina A
Sabrina A 3 yıl önce
This literally made me cry. Thank you I needed this
Pnini Shidlovsky
Pnini Shidlovsky 4 yıl önce
Thanks so much!!!! I have the same situation! And your video helped me!!!
Lonni's Place
Lonni's Place 2 yıl önce
I found out that I love writing a long time ago. One day, a person came to my school and told us to close our eyes and whatever we saw ouseleves doing is what we want or something like that. I saw myself writing. I didn't even have to think about it. I saw myself sitting down, writing. The same thing happened when he told us to close our eyes and look at ourselves. I didn't mean to myslef writing through the mirror. I just did. Makes me question if majoring in biology in college is the right choice. Biology is interesting to me. But I love writing, and I love playing the cello and learning new languages. But there are no jobs in English that interest me except being a teacher. But I don't even know if I want to do that. Biology is difficult, complex and requires a lot of studying. I was going to go to med school or get my masters to work as an autopsy technician. But I'm not passionate about it. I like art. I like to binge watch movies and shows. What should I do? I was thinking maybe I am just weak and need to sucker up and put in those hours of studying biology. I am only in my first biology class. Maybe the future classes will be better? I don't know what to do with my life. I was thinking about being a movie critic or screenwriter or playwright or a director or editor. Anything to do with films and writing becauae I can watch anything all day and night. But I keep second guessing it because everytime I talk to my mom about changing my career choice, she talks about the negatives that come wih it that makes me think that maybe it's not the best idea. For example, last night I was expressing to her thT maybe I want to be an architect and she was just talking about how there's math and stuff in it. I was telling her thT I have to take hard math classes with my major already but she was adamant, saying that I won't actually need math and saying all the math stuff that has to do with architecture. That made me go back to biology. I wouldn't even know where to start to be a movie critic. I'm in theatre appreciation and I'm not even that interested in everything my teacher is teaching us. But maybe it's only that. I'm not sure what goes into it. I was also interested in psychology, but I don't think that'll work out for me. So? Should I be a movie critic? Or an editor for magazines and stuff like that? I like to create my own stories and I don't want to have a job filled with writing, then come back home to write even more. But I also don't want to edit other people's awesome works. Maybe if I am an editor, I can easily just edit my own stuff?
Lonni's Place
Lonni's Place 2 yıl önce
@Mångå still in Biology. Sorry for the long comment. That's the short answer. You can keep reading if you want an explanation. I have a habit of long commenting. I made that comment a long time ago. I failed that biology class twice (I know it's embarrassing) so I have to take it again this semester along with algebra. I just have to get my study habits right and I'll pass my classes. I just had a difficult time with time management and understanding all the concepts in biology. I think I'm a visual learner in that subject and there weren't many visuals in the class except a few pictures here and there that my teacher claimed was supposed to help me. It didn't. I tried to look on yt. Didn't find anything. So anyways, I'm hoping my teachers are better this semester and that I'm better, myself. I made a D twice in that class and failed Algebra because I forgot to do the homework (was focused more on Chemistry). So I hope I pass everything this semester. I'm already two biology classes behind. That's a whole two semesters of classes so I'm taking summer classes as well. I have to remake my list to graduate in four to five years and see which classes I can take. I'm sti with biology because I get this weird feeling in my stomach whenever I think about changing my major. That feeling feels like regret but idk if it's fear of me not succeeding in the other major. But that makes no sense because idk if I'll succeed in this one either. But I feel like I have to be in this major. I might graduate a bit late. I lied in my previous comment. I am kind of passionate about autopsies and cutting people open to see how they died. That sounds like the best job ever to me tbh. So, I was thinking of minoring in Biology and majoring in music so I can be in the military band for some years. But I think I'll get that feeling again. So I'm gonna power through bio and find my study habits and time management skills and graduate with a biology degree. I don't know what path is being laid in front of me. But I think I'm going down the right one.
Mångå
Mångå 2 yıl önce
Hey dude, how are you doing right now? You are still in Biology major or you changed?
Himal Pillay
Himal Pillay Yıl önce
This came at a time where I really needed it.
Amna Tanveer
Amna Tanveer 4 yıl önce
When I started working on my career. I just only knew that money was important to earn and that's it. I didn't even know either back then that what I wanted to do. Till the last year I used to see all these video and would think I don't even know what I like but I did one thing in all time. I tried everything that my heart desired and it eventually took me to a place where I know what Im passionate about but deep inside Im scared and in doubts what if I won't be able to make a career out of it? Should I not concentrate on the jobs that Im currently doing because thats paying my bills? So yeah. Im in a phase of fear and doubts but Im gonna give a little time every day to my list that Im passionate about, we'll see where it will take me. I hope this helps.
Vito Corleone
Vito Corleone 4 yıl önce
Was he rehearsing, or were there actually people there
Porker Pete
Porker Pete 3 yıl önce
He had me laughing, but I think the vibe of that talk was supposed to be serious. And the audience had to act as such.
T DUB
T DUB 3 yıl önce
Rihhtt 6
Saurabh Tewari
Saurabh Tewari 3 yıl önce
Great talk . I'll be 17 this june looks like I got a way to find what I truly want
Helanie Verster
Helanie Verster 4 yıl önce
WOW, awesome talk! really mind opening!
Jana de Klerk
Jana de Klerk Yıl önce
Wow. Total eye-opener. I never thought about it like this before.
C Naber
C Naber 2 yıl önce
He's a good speaker. I enjoyed the talk. Thank you :-).
Victor duarte
Victor duarte 4 yıl önce
I think the question "what do you want to be..?" leads the response to be "I want". As adults, we are educated enough to recognize the format that a question wants to be answered in. A better question to ask is "what are you going to be?" this way people can respond "I don't know, but I want ..." and then you can make the same conclusions.
Nina
Nina 8 aylar önce
I can't believe that when I visualized what I needed to do before I died, cooking and baking were the most important to me.
S Star
S Star 8 aylar önce
Pastry chef?
eric
eric 2 yıl önce
When you are gonna die tomorrow, think about what you gonna do today. That is what you wanna do. That 's what you care mostly! You will find out feelings from family, friends, your partner is what matters.
Saurav J. Medhi
Saurav J. Medhi 3 yıl önce
The crowd were great. The talk was great. The connection was real.
Yun A
Yun A 3 yıl önce
I’ve always wanted to do more traveling, move to another country, eat more delicious food, explore different cities lifestyle and more but my inner doubts keeps telling I can’t do all of these. I’m in the age where I have to think about my future, having a family, earn money, duties to my family, what kind of job/career I should get and so many more. All of these comes to my mind whenever I want to try something. I want to do be with my partner but we are thousands of miles away and only got to meet every 4-6 months though video chatting is very convenient, I still feel so different when I’m with my partner. I want to move to his country but there are so many barriers that hinders us to be together and here I am still doesn’t know what to do with my life but all I know is that I want to be with that person.
Vitória Sillys
Vitória Sillys 4 yıl önce
Great lecture!!!!!
뿌이뿌이 - Beep Beep
뿌이뿌이 - Beep Beep Yıl önce
I'm so down right now, cause i feel so useless, so i searched "what i should do in my life" this video motivated me
Poisson 667
Poisson 667 Yıl önce
Same!!!
CampKilljoy
CampKilljoy Yıl önce
I’ve looked myself in the mirror my whole life. I feel only what can be described as intensity as I stare back through my own eyes, into my soul, reflecting on my existence, and searching for a purpose. Searching for answers. Fantastic speech. Thank you.
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