My friends tell me I'm weird for watching uni lectures during my free time when out of my free time I'm listening to lectures at uni as well. No tests for me, no homework. Stress-free learning. I'm happy.

0:00 Agreeableness explanation 23:16 Unagreeableness and criminality, and regulation of aggression 36:22 Personality trait and political belief 45:00 Overcoming personality disadvantages

I've just come here to say that for the last two days I was working on translating this whole video to Czech, so my family and friends could understand what Dr. Peterson is saying in his advanced english. I'd like to thank you, Dr. Peterson, for sharing your fantastic hypothesis with us.

Time to sit back and soak in the knowledge. We truly appreciate your work, Dr. Peterson. Thank you!

I love how he says “I will tell you my observations and I want you to tell me if you disagree.” This is a sign of a true master.

I'm retiring next month. And I'm a bit nervous about how to keep up with my kids.

People tell me I am disagreeable but I disagree with them.

I'm very high in agreeableness, the drawbacks have been pretty impactful and it's pretty depressing actually. Thanks so much for all your videos.

I think it is absolutely unbelievable how much wisdom can be jam packed into a single lecture.

I took to heart the advice on the job of a parent and discussed it with my better half. We agreed upon an way to apply it IRL. Now, 3 years later I'm absolutely positive that our 5yo is welcomed everywhere and has many play dates in part because of that approach. He's a cheeky little boy with a sense of humor that seems to charm people around him. Exactly what I could only hope he would become (thus far). We're absolutely blessed that way. TY

The amount of content packed into this 49min is unparalleled. True life advice

24:43 "It's easy for people to confuse confidence for competence". I had never noticed that concept; I love how powerful these lectures are; power-charged with insights of knowledge like a mine field. Dr Peterson is such a great teacher. I'm so thankful that he had the initiative to record and and upload these lectures.

man this lecture is so freaking useful!

What he says about children is amazing we need to learn this early

As a moderately-agreeable person (also much to my own chagrin) watching this is immensely helpful. I feel a lot more conscious of my own potential pitfalls, so I want to thank you for that!

My favorite lecture, by far. A 50 minute video so dense with possibly life changing information, presented in a concise and captivating way. A trully remarkable lesson. Thank you, professor, for providing me with the opportunity to listen to this from home, free of charge. Wish you the best in everything you do.

His uninterrupted train of thought is astounding. I am a former academic and I suffer from depression and an autoimmune illness. My career was destroyed by them, my train of thought will not last more than twenty minutes without making me physically ill. I am not able to wrap my head around his ability to deliver at such an incredible calibre in spite of him suffering from depression too, as well as an autoimmune illness. How on earth?!

I am extremely grateful that this is available, openly. When I watch these lectures I feel like various avenues of thinking where I got stuck long ago, suddenly unclog and I feel this rush of sudden understanding. Thank you.

Very very true. I went to my boss. Showed what I earn for the company. And asked for a raise. His answer was the others do not earn that much. I told him the others cannot do my job. I am very aware how agreeable I had been. This is over now. Because no one will evaluate my work for the less money.

I wish I was a student in your classroom. But these videos are great. Thank You!! 😊 for letting me in your video class to hear your brilliant thoughts and knowledge. Forever grateful.

Doc P's lectures are the easiest lecture to want to listen to because everything he says is absolutely fascinating and useful to know!! Thank you for making these free to us! Three cheers for the People's Professor! Let him that has ears let him hear!

Jordan, I just wanna say I love you. I wish there'd be a Jordan on youtube for economics, and for art etc. I've learnt so much from your lectures.

Thank you for making this available to us Professor Peterson.

I still find it amazing that I can sit here and learn this stuff for free…

I really appreciated this video as I've come to realize I am highly agreeable (to my detriment). At the very end of this video Dr. Peterson states that it would be useful to investigate the viewpoints of people with opposing views. Now that is something that I can do. It's a start anyway.... I'm a single mom raising 2 boys and I've come to realize that I've got a responsibility to toughen up and be the parent and teach them basic things like how to clean their room, take the trash out etc. By my doing everything for them really isn't doing them any favors in the long term if I'm quietly teaching them how to get everyone else to do their work for them.

Outline of this lecture: 2:16 Danger of confusing personality traits with moral virtues. 4:56 Women are more agreeable than men. 6:40 Pros and cons of being agreeable. 6:55 Salary is correlated negatively with agreeableness. Comment on business negotiations. 9:14 Agreeable people like to be liked. 9:35 Why personality differences between men and women exist ? 16:13 Disagreeable people. 19:04 Conscientiousness vs agreeableness 20:55 Agreeable people do not like conflict. 23:20 Regulation of aggression. 23:54 Tangent: criminals/psychopaths. 26:46 Importance of rough and tumble games. 28:52 ADHD 30:55 Your job as a parent is to make your child socially desirable by the age of 4. 32:29 Above 4 years old primary socialization with children takes place among other children. 34:23 Agreeableness range: predatory aggression vs maternal sympathy. 36:29 Liberals vs conservatives 39:26 Political correctness. Two types. 45:15 What is the best antidote to views which are simplifying the world ?

I literally laughed at 'disagreeable people won't do a thing they don't want to do' -- because I got 88/100 on the test for disagreeableness, and I knew it beforehand, and I do things I don't want to do ... but not often and I have to really like you and care for you or have a good reason to do so... I have things I need to get done and my day is planned out and I don't want to be interrupted, so unless you're my best friend, my husband, my mother, or my cat, I do not like to be interrupted and do things I don't want to do.

This guy is spot on about parenting your aggressive boys. You can make them valuable members of society, given their gift of aggression. They can be protectors

This clears up so much of what goes on in relationships!

This is absolutely fascinating.

Thank you, Jordan Peterson. This entire series has been phenomenal and this episode seemed to elevate the series exponentially.

Wow. This is such important stuff. I would trade all my hours in school to have understood this in my 20s. Very very impressive lecture jordan!!!

This guy keeps awesome lectures. Everyone who is even remotely interested in anything should watch these.

This is one of your best lectures! So many pieces to the puzzle in just 50 minutes. I had a revelation for every 10 minutes watching this!

Never met anyone in my search (decades) that explained this. The beginning was powerful then began my struggle and the results were exactly as he explained. Extremely appreciated.

I think I'll get a degree in Psychology right here in TRshow....

The greatest transformation in my life came with the lessening of my agreeable traits.

Still great info for us humans. I’ve been learning from the great Prof Dr J Peterson since 2016. I particularly like his lectures in the 90’s.

I never thought I was agreeable until watching this video. Wow, I didn’t even realize I was suffering.Thank you for this video. I now at least understand why.

Interesting. I’ve been watching these lectures to expand my knowledge about personality (and because I’m about to begin teaching and JP is a well-versed orator), but the rough and tumble play bit is something I can talk about in a review paper I’m working on. Always cool when the stuff I do late at night to relax is actually productive for my work! In the outside chance anyone is curious, my lab’s theoretical position is that individual differences in the ability to control attention, and not necessarily working memory capacity (WMC) or fluid intelligence (Gf), are the primary driver of individual differences in cognition more broadly and therefore possibly the fundamental marker of cognitive ability. We think that WMC and Gf are important but that attention control is broader, and mediates (explains) the strong relationship between WMC and Gf (which can be thought of, roughly speaking, as involving the ability to maintain goal-directed information and disengage from irrelevant information, respectively, whereas attention control is involved in both). The review paper will cover several areas of research that have emphasized the role of WMC in applied settings (such as automation, education, testing, training, policing, psychopathology, sports) and argue instead that attention control can be as important if not more so in these domains, so researchers ought to invest more to study attention control’s role in these domains. As part of the education and/or training section, we can mention the part about how engaging in “safe” roughhousing in toddlers may improve cognitive ability (specifically inhibition as Peterson & Flanders, 2015 argue, which is basically attention control) and therefore might be an alternative remediation strategy and overall better approach to improving future academic achievement in children than these ill-fated efforts to train working memory capacity/intelligence. Unfortunately, it doesn’t look like rough and tumble play can help a student once they’re school-aged, but at least we can advocate for awareness in parents engaging in this type of play as something they can do to socialize their child, curb aggressive and antisocial behavior, and, most relevant to our manuscript, potentially improve attentional abilities and help reduce the chances of the child developing ADHD and similar issues.

I love the fact that he records his lectures to share them with anyone on youtube. Listening to his lectures has help me in so many ways, that I can't thank the world enough for allowing this man to exist and letting him get to where he is now.

I really love these lectures and I've been listening to one everyday for quite a while now and the impact it has had on my thinking is phenomenal.

This is some amazing stuff, I'm so happy I found this channel. Wish I could attend one of your lectures!

I scored 10% in Agreeableness at this test. I totally see myself as a very disagreeable person, and I've always defended that this was the way I was, and it wasn't necessarily good or bad, it just was. It would be very helpful to grasp this concept earlier in my life.

This lecture is priceless and listen to it at least 10 times to absorb the content and become one with it.

Absolutely brilliant insights into human development, psychological traits, and interpersonal relationships with practical applications that could literally improve your life.

Thank you Dr. Peterson. This just took my understanding of my relationship with others to a whole new level. I think I’ll be better at relating with people after this.

I knew a guy who said that his mother would give her children the food off her plate, and leave herself nothing for dinner. Now, years later, I understand that she was in the top 1% of agreeableness - she wanted to do for others so much that it was pathological.

hi jordan, loved this lecture and many of your other videos. what possibilities are there aside from criminality for someone who is low in agreeableness and consciousness?

The best part of this lecture is at the end when JBP tells us to try to learn how to use the traits that are opposite to our nature and find a role that matches our natural inclinations. Fill in the gaps in your personality. Also, do this with your choice of partner. Find someone that has some of the opposing traits but not too extreme as to lead to irreconcilable differences.

The anecdote about your disagreeable friend is brilliant. The difficult truths, especially the ones that hurt peoples feelings, are sometimes the most valuable!

How is it that I'm 40 and I'm just finding you, Dr. Peterson? You rock, seriously. I'm learning so much. Thank you.

Really interesting - typically I recognise myself with this agreeableness. I totally get the nevous system wiring idea too - but then as I was listening it occurred to me that the infant could be modifying their 'behaviour' towards the needs of the parent (mother). I wonder if that's at all possible. Great lecture.

What a wonderful lecturer. I was lucky enough to have a short number of profs this good, but its always wonderful to experience another

Why wasn't this guy my professor? I feel cheated. That's what education is supposed to be IMO.

Thank you so much Dr. Peterson, for this video and your dedication to researching our psychological differences. I was wrestling with my own personal agreeable tendencies and your observations brought a whole new light to the matter that had a positive impact. Your work WORKS!

Dr. Peterson, In the discussion of standard deviation modeled overlapping normal distributions, a graphic representation in your slides would be helpful (perhaps for a future iteration of this course). I think aesthetic representations could be added post hoc to your videos, as well. That would possibly further enhance the experience for your viewership! Thank you for sharing these online, by the way. Most professors lack some combination of the vision, courage, and industriousness it takes to do what you do. I'll be a Patreon just as soon as I'm no longer a broke college student living in Texas. Cheers - RP

I've been listening to your biblical series. You are a treasure of our generation sir.

Dude Jordan is a fucking hero. Not only is he so carefully articulate and with every word, he's able to cover every perspective base describing his points. I also don't understand why people aren't more interested in personality. It's blatantly obvious that our beliefs and paradigms of the world determine how we will act. It's the ultimate predictor/measure of how people think and act. It just intrigues me, I love this shit so much

absolutely brilliant! thank you for the lecture

Everytime I watch one of Peterson's personality videos I take another big 5 test.

You are a brilliant man Dr Peterson and I am grateful for your work.

These are fascinating lectures. It's the insight which continually staggers me. Agreeableness is very energy intensive, as a neurotic I am many kilocalories removed from it!

Dude, I have first-hand seen rooms filled with desks occupied by middle-aged women who were highly agreeable and conscientious. My own mother is like this, but with time she’s learned ways to get what she wants. It basically boils down to coming across as so cooperative and hard-working that the dominant, disagreeable individuals nearly fight eachother over the right to hold your leash. It’s viciously manipulative, but it’s a useful roundabout way of remaining agreeable while still getting things to work in your favor.

I actually feel like i should be wearing a monicle after watching this. i feel so smart after listening to all this. it makes so much sense, and makes me think about things in ways ive never thought about them before. Absolutely Incredible.

Dr. Peterson, congratulations for the unspeakeable amazing work you've been doing. I can say that your lectures were a true life-changer for me (and I'm sure so much people share these feelings with me!). I really would want to know your thoughts on Pierre Bourdieu and his social fields structures concepts! Again, THANK YOU SO MUCH! Now, excuse me, I will come back to sorting myself out haha

очень интересная лекция. спасибо.

Excellent. Summary of traits generally characteristic of each of the Big Five. Thank you, Dr. Peterson.

I already watched this lecture in the past but can't wait to watch this new version. I love his lectures about The Big 5. Amazing stuff to understand other people and yourself better. Thank you Professor Peterson

Wow, I can't believe how good of a professor he is and how interesting this stuff is. I'm studying environmental sciences, I just finished my 2nd year, and I hate university, it's a spanish university, so imagine how horrible it is. I think I love science, and definitely I feel the burden of the environment, but this lecture has blown my mind away. I would love to be there and work on this as much as I love environmental sciences. I guess I really love a lot of different things, even if I gotta choose a single one to build a career, but whatever the case is, this lecture has been fantastic

Amazing Story. While I am saddened by your extended suffering. I am thrilled at your perseverance and ability to sort this trial out. You must indeed be a remarkable Woman. Thank you for sharing your story.

Dr Peterson, I felt compelled to write this comment to thank you. You came to my attention, like many others, through your free speech battles, but this series and your other philosophical work has given me profound insight into my psyche and given me tools and ideas to work on for my own betterment. While I'm grateful for this, what I really grateful for is giving me the framework to help someone else, someone who I care very deeply about and love very much, my partner. She has suffered with depression since she was in her mid teens and had a quite turbulent child hood. In the past when she would have a bad time or hit a low point I could be there for her as at best a comfort, which of course has value, but thanks to the lessons I have learned from your lectures I have been able to talk to her about her feelings. We did what you advocate and spoke the truth and see what happened. What happened was we had an intense but deeply gratifying conversation. One that didn't just sooth her, but one I think will help her grow, and in that process I felt I have grown and our relationship has become stronger. She will be seeing a counsellor soon but I walked her through the big 5 attributes and suggested some actions from the past authoring suite and she took to the ideas really well. She has a lot of baggage from her past, so facing these will be tough, but she saw the value in doing it. So I wanted to thank you for giving me the tools to sort myself out, but also help my partner sort herself out.

Agreeableness is a devastating character trait. In a world that's inherently antagonistic, adversarial and predatory, an overly disagreeable person can still succeed. An agreeable one, even one with great potential, has no hope in hell. Unless a parental or mentor figure intervenes at an early stage, they can essentially kiss their life goodbye. This lecture and Peterson's Ted Talk on Potential are his two most important and potentially transformative videos.

I'm definitely going to have to say this lecture has allowed me to put the pieces together and see the world in a new light, because I know people that the example fits perfectly, and I don't think I've ever realized before quite why some people just vacuum up additional work and responsibility until the crash and burn before. Not to mention that propensities seem to have almost their own kind of epigenetics, that you can train something that doesn't come naturally to you until that methyl group just pops off and the whole circuit is manifested. That's probably not how it actually works, but it might be a useful metaphor?

You were better than the "therapist" I had for 1 year. She simply recommended divorce. I get you. This is amazing. I've been surely surely waiting for this Understanding; understanding is power.

can't enough of this dude.

Beautiful lecture Mr. Peterson ❤️

I am so glad to hear someone say that medicated boys (some girls) is a bad idea and that the school system is not built for them... I went through my whole secondary school being medicated with ritalin and it turned me into a potatoe. I stopped taking it for my exams and its like I woke up and was noticing everything. It took me a while to learn how to manage my ADHD without medication but it is possible and I feel like I can work better than most of my colleagues!

A narcissistic parent can suppress your play system too .... as they train you to consider only them. Never off duty until they'd gone.

This lecture has changed me. Thank you Dr. Peterson

this guy completely shifts my perception of myself, others, the world and the human experience in general

Listening to this helped calm me down while having a horrible day at work.

Ive always been an agreeable person. Ive leaned towards compromise avoidance of conflict in most situations especially in romantic relationships. what ive realised is that my ageeableness that i viewed as a positive trait has frustrated after having a dad i was in fear of so i learned to value attachment over authenticity .I Learned early on that to appease my controlling often violent father i had to let go of my own personality ( authenticity) which i had erroneously believed was the reason for his unpredicibility and to survive id become agreeable thereby learning to smooth the water over consistently.... problems arose later in life when i felt a level my agreeableness often contained a level of being disengenousness to others out of fear of any conflict

What a great teacher !

Listening to this amazing lecture, while cleaning my room, that got dirty from rescuing my father from the depths.

I love to learn so thanks, Dr Petersen for these videos.

Exordinary brilliant! I like your Lessons at all, but this is one of the most significant ones! Thank you very much!

How incredibly lucky are the students in Dr. Peterson's classes! His desire to ensure that he presents the subject at hand in the most clear and concise manner for the benefit of his students is incredible. No ego.

I've always thought I had a psychopathic mindset. Jordan Peterson confirms it at 24 minutes. This changes my life completely

I've always had a strange temperament. I would describe it like a non-newtonian fluid. I've a very easy going person, but as soon as a certain limit it hit, I suddenly change. For example. My mom said that when I was new to day care, this one time she observed that some kid was following me around. Whenever I played with a toy for a bit, he'd come over and take the toy from me. I was seemingly unphased and just walked away like nothing happen, found a new toy and started to play again. She said she was just watching because she was still learning how I interacted with other children, and after several instances of this other kid taking my toys, I suddenly gripped the last toy as the other child attempted to take it from me, and pushed him down. When I was in my teens, my mom would tell me I need to stop letting people walk all over me and better assert my opinions. I told her that other people's opinions generally don't bother me. I find that most people are generally well meaning and I let most annoyances slide because other people are different than me and it's not worth bothering other people who won't like my opinions. But if I feel like someone's opinions are regularly causing me grief, I will let them know of my disagreement, and if no progress or good faith action is taken to make compromise, I will suddenly stand my ground and give no room for negotiations within what's reasonable. This extremely rarely occurs. Another example. I am introverted, it is mentally and emotionally exhausting to "hang out" with most people. But even if I do not find what other people are doing is fun, I do find it fun to watch them have fun. As much as it tires me, I enjoy being around people being merry. Another thing that I find different about myself is I can ignore crying babies quite well as long as the cry does not indicate something is wrong. Babies have different cries for different things and sometimes they just cry. I can generally identify these different cries. I've just always found it easy to just block those out. But if there is anything in their cry that indicates something is wrong, it becomes my absolute attention. Everyone that I know can't ignore crying babies at all. They'll get so worked up and annoyed. Of course I'm not ignoring a child that I am actively responsible for, but I don't have any children of my own, so the children I'm around are almost always someone else's current responsibility.

We are wired to be exploited by infants!! That is so interesting. Thanks JBP

So grateful for that class, Dr.!!!

THIS LECTURE IS AMAZING!

This series above all let you map out how to treat your reactions and feeling in a more objective way I think

this is so useful i watched it 5 times to get the most out of it

I learn something new every time I watch one of his videos, and this is the first lecture I've watched

I love your content Mr. Peterson

Personal note: 22:25 Although being agreeable might make empathising easier, it must never mean that you don't stand up for yourself when you know you need to. I've been in that place before where I live outwardly by orienting myself towards others that I don't think about myself whilst I'm empathising. It makes empathising easier, but you never want to be in a position where you're so outwardly oriented that you DON'T KNOW whether your decisions - as a result of your empathy towards the other person - will be good or bad. You must know what you want, which is another way of saying you must know how your decisions will affect your in the short, medium and long run.

That was so unbelievably good! 👏

That feeling when you're highly neurotic, agreeable and conscientious