Very well said!

Facts

@@jbladen11 So true... When you look at my profile picture, do I look like someone who did meth for 30 years and heroin for 10? I've been clean for 4 years now.

So true..

I see it as an explanation not an excuse

She also has empathy. She even apologized to Cruz for having to say that his biological mother did not want him. She is really a good person.

Martin Bryant not so much lol nobody gives a f about him lol

@@arab1705 it doesn't look like that. they giving him attention, he wanted.

Where's the timestamp where she stated that?

@@kevinocean523 18:58 is the question from the attorney, and her response soon after where she turned to the defendant.

Not only did this witness apologize, but she winked at him twice as she approached the witness box.

@@bridgettroberts2386 I saw the wink too! Some - perhaps most people - would find that very offensive but I thought it was very sweet. I remember being called up for jury duty in a murder trial. Everyone was glowering at the defendant but I thought, 'Innocent until proven guilty and all that - he's probably not getting many smiles at this point' so I smiled at him. Needless to say, I was disqualified. Ironically, when the facts of the case came out and I found out he'd been found not guilty I was disappointed. If I'd stayed on the jury, I'd have voted 'guilty'. Excuse the segue way.

@@AnnabelleCharrier glad you were excused from the jury then.

Not even the upbringing so much as the drug and alchohol abuse while he was still in the womb. That'll seriously mess someone up.

What about Brenda?! Do you know what she has been through as a child?!

Absolutely. I mean obviously it doesn’t excuse what he had done but one way or the other this kid was doomed from the start. His mother is almost just as much to blame at that point. Who knows how much the drugs and alcohol effected him and his brain to where this all would have been avoided had his development in the womb had not been effected by those things.

@@konczita82 would love to know answer to that

There is also such a thing as foetal alcohol syndrome.

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Agreed...

I really respected her more than that prosecuting attorney. Reminded me of Thomas Binger, of the Kyle Rittenhouse trial. That prosecutor was also a jerk.

@@JohnSmith-ct5jd It's his job to try to discredit or minimize the testimony of the defense's witnesses. The defense does the same thing with State's witnesses.

But yes, she had quite a compelling story to tell. I'm glad she straightened out her life and got away from drugs and alcohol.

Agreed

What’s that supposed to mean exactly

Addiction doesn't turn its victims into unintelligent, inherently bad people. Addicts come from all walks of life. It shouldn't be surprising that she's not an evil monster or something, although I do understand the spirit of your comment.

Most non addicts or people that have never dealt with mental health issues in general aren't as understanding as people that have struggled.

@@BlessedTruly2014 I totally agree. Unfortunately, the addicts I know very well are very childlike, immature and self centered in their thinking. I read through Alanon that they sometimes stay mentally the age that they began their addiction. But then again, my personal examples are not recovered.

I had the exact same thoughts. Then to apologize to Nicholas was beyond words, I can’t imagine what Nicholas was thinking , he had lost both moms at this point. This women has a good heart.

I agree 100%! I am glad she got clean and she is back with her family.

She's a good person.

I think the stress of this (and how some people are representing her) has the potential of triggering a relapse. Here's hoping she comes through all right.

@@heathertzogas7557 she seems like a tough cookie 😊🍪

@2eggs Over easy thank you ❤️

Same here Lynn. Even after 22 years sober there are still many things I don’t remember. My son is 30 now and it’s hard living with all the things I missed when he was younger. He was what kept me going and kept me from going off the deep end. Life isn’t always easy even after all this time, but it’s sure better than any day when I was using. I keep praying for those that are still out there struggling with addiction because it truly is hell on earth.

@@heatherhughes2955 🙏 that’s great. Congratulations 🎈

I agree. I was really getting annoyed with that prosecutor for picking at her the way he did. Jerk.

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I love this lady

Read the book a mother wrote about the mother of Adam Lanza. If you don’t all remember, he did the Sandy Hook shootings that took an entire room of children along with the teacher and some of the faculty.

I probably would. I am a ex addict and any person older and a longer addict than I ever was, they were people I remember even in the struggles we were all dealing with.

Her story is not unusual. Thousands lik her. Thousands dead in jail murdered or dead by suicide r overdose.

Roman didn't consent to existence.

Absolutely, well said

Lol yall are crazy. This women is just as bad as Brenda but got a year sentence and got scared straight. Imagine if they got back to that house and smoked them 5 rocks up and who knows what happens from there. Why are yall d riding her lolllll

Agreed. I thought she was just some nice old lady neighbor of Cruz’s family at first.

She has confronted her past and doesn’t let it define her anymore. It’s the key to getting clean, forgiving herself. That’s part of why so many addicts are addicts, they hate who they’ve become, on top of whatever led them to that lifestyle in the first place. They’re hiding from it. It’s why she’s so honest, if you start to hide from it, you’re going to end up right back where you were.

i didnt read the description of the video and thought she was a teacher

@@lamelinna I thought she was Nikolas Cruz mother at first.

Wtf is this????

Not a monster sombody who was tired of living just chose the worst way to end hes I hope he find GOD

@@KINGRIZZO Him finding GOD won’t bring back the innocent lives he so selfishly and heinously stole

@@lorriedeedamas9260 couldn’t agree no more than u agree on but he’s alive god forgave a murderer b4 he have a chance to repent

100% and you can have parents but that doesn’t mean they’re good parents. The importance of people and their words…. And how powerful words and the way you treat and raise people is.

19:30

@@BenjiFriedman now he's focused

That’s what I thought as well

@@BenjiFriedman thanks❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤

no, nothing will ever change what he did but it certainly makes it clearer

@@WRMRanch Yes! 100% agree! Very true

@@WRMRanch Once we're all dead and that, no-one will remember or even care.

Change the laws on drugs, stop the war on drugs. Create laws that decriminalize drugs. I understand people are afraid of that but please don’t be confused with making it legal. Decriminalization means that a once-banned drug is still prohibited by law, but the legal system will no longer prosecute or criminalize a person for carrying under a certain amount. The USA has to also have socialized medical treatments for rehab centers, Ibogaine clinics be an option, and other treatments available. The reality is addicts are medicating themselves to treat a mental illness, or was injured and got hooked on pain meds either way the drug war is a war on sick people nothing more.

Sadly they have to want the help :( otherwise they’ll just take everyone down with them

I was just thinking the same thing, especially since she’s got such a jovial personality and the ability to tell a good story.

Literally a billion others with the same exact story. Drugs, abuse, gut wrenching heart ache. It's a life many of us live. No books need written. Just a little respect givin so people don't go BACK to the crazy.

I wanna see it play out on a big screen ! She would totally be able to help a lot of people and use the money she makes to the cause she’s already working on with the women she helps 🙏🏾💪🏾

@@MrDumbass420 a life lived doesn’t have to be spectacularly unique for it to be a story worth being told. Perhaps in her case BECAUSE so many people have and will continue to walk her same path. Every person is a little universe unto themselves, and when they’re gone, it’s like a whole sky blinking out. Her life is worth knowing about- and she IS in the unique position of having gone through something that eventually takes the life of most people it touches, with the clarity of being on the other side of it never to be reached. She’s reached it. It’s a valuable perspective.

Agree..it could help a lot people 👌🏾

@ash.marie.87 True, especially if you trying to forget

@TheKimberlydw I hated the taste of alcohol until I got used to it. its still nasty but not as repulsive as it once was to me

@TheKimberlydw I'm sorry to hear that she never did seek out the help that she so desperately needs. My heart breaks for you. Family members go through so much suffering seeing a loved one self destruct. It isn't fair for the family at all.

@@debbieangel9376 You want to try and forget it, but sobriety means coming clean with everything & sharing your testimony. 😊

I know I'm a stranger on the internet...but I want you to know that I am so proud of you!!! Keep a-pushing, one day at a time💙💙

@@lifeofatruckerswife believe it or not, it actually means alot more coming from a stranger. Thank you so much for this ❤️

Queen Dee congrats on your sobriety! I often think back and wonder how I made it out too! I was in active addiction 15 yrs and sober for 2 yrs and 5 months now

@@KT06 Congratulations

@@KT06 sister, that’s amazing. I’m really proud of you! ❤️ I got 4 years myself, and I know now hard that 2 year mark is for a lot of addicts, including myself. It’s huge you have made it as far as you have. So much love & respect ❤️

Amen 🙏 I

Definitely. She is still alive!!

YES YES YES. 🤍

absolutely

100% agreed. I'm glad to see so many supportive comments here, can't be easy for her to be reliving her past for the world to see. Have to say I thought she did really well. She didn't ask to be there, but fulfilled her duty.

Agreed

Odaat ♥️ 18 years here.

I’m a RN who has worked iN addiction nursing for 25+ yrsPeople who battle addiction to anything have such a struggle and they need all our support. I see all their pain while they are in the Detox unit. It breaks my heart. So many times people say to me why do I work with addicts. I get so upset by this. They need me just as much as any patient. I’m so happy this lady is doing this l and helping others.

Maybe.

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Need to talk

Yes.

Hey! I just want you to know I’m proud of you! You’re amazingly strong and what you have done takes so much bravery ❤

@@along58 Thank you ❤️

🎉my story as well,and I’m so very glad that I had a change of heart and mind do not continue down that road. I’ll be 62 years next month and I am enjoying my grandkids so much and, as well as I enjoy being with my beautiful dog that I love so dearly, that’s alcohol people can change. One of these great quotes” you have to clear the past, before you see the present, to get to the future”!🎉I’m so proud of US 😉 BLESS YOU MY DEAR ALWAYS GIVING THANKS TO GOD THAT MADE US AND GAVE US OUR BEAUTIFUL SIGHT TO SEE, OUR MOUTH AND TASTE BUDS TO TASTE ALLLLL THESE MARVELOUS FOODS ECT…. OUR EARS TO HEAR THE BEAUTIFUL WORDS IN A SMALL SERMON,OR SIMPLY HEAR GODS WORDS ON YOUR EARPHONES 😅TO HEAR BEAUTIFUL MUSIC..I CAN JUST GO ON..AND ON….Thank you for sharing CONTINUE TO KEEP YOUR HEART AND EYES ON THE RIGHT AND LIGHT PATH…SENDING YOU AND ALL THAT ARE STILL SUFFERING OUT THERE STRONG AND LOVING PRAYERS…🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺👼👼👼👼👼👼🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍👍👍👍👍😉😉👏👏👏👏

I don't know who you are, but I am very proud of you. That takes an incredible amount of strength. I wish you nothing but the best.

Yep. All we can do is learn and move on, life goes on make it count! 😀

@@McBryce0 Yup..Learn and move on..Without a doubt!

It's a lot more than a positive attitude or will. Kind of a naive view. It's a lot of really hard work and usually it takes something so awful happening that you don't have a choice anymore. And sometimes it's nothing because the life you lived is so horrible and without love and full of trauma your brain is disabled from it. Jesus gets people sober sometimes. A lot of times it's getting so sick you're in the hospital or going to prison. It's not a bad mindset that gets people so low. Life is fkn hard for some people.

@@mobius4897 Hard work and dedication comes from positive thinking, attitude and a will to change. Thanks.

Why wouldn’t she be well spoken. She’s still human she’s not garbage

🙌🏾🙌🏾EXACTLYYYYY.. yes 👏🏾 yesss !!! May she be blessed 😇 beyond her years !!! She should be proud of herself & sobriety 🙌🏾💕

I would love for her to do a full podcast just about her life she’s such a good story teller and her memory is so good she even takes you back to the moment the way she speaks

I hope she reads these comments one day and sees how positive people are speaking about her and her honesty.

I wish she could read all of these comments. So much love for her, and she deserves it all. ❤️

This is such a kind and thoughtful comment. Many who haven’t been touched by addiction in their own lives can often be judgmental about the people who have, especially to the level that she was involved in drugs and prostitution. It’s easy for *me* to empathize with her because I’ve been there (for the addiction part)- I really appreciate seeing the empathy from someone who hasn’t 💜

@@PrincessPoohs plenty of us out here think the same way as Jim. I've never touched drugs and barely drink, but I always feel terrible for people with addiction issues. Life is hard and it's tough that a few bad choices can destroy large parts of a life.

Worst part is, the daughter of branda the half sister of nikolas got life in prison:(

If a former drug user can stay off of drugs for a long time, and they are willing to help others, rehab center hire them as a role mother for those who would like to quit.

Those are the best people to help those struggling with addiction etc…..if they’ve been there and done it then they’re truly the best to help!

She is still ticking bad so is she really sober?

@@shidehhafezi6826 amen!

@@crazydiamond4565 its not easy. She is clearly trying, it seems

What about Brenda?! Do you know what she has been through as a child?! Maybe her parents screw her up? And her parents were screwed by their parents 😵‍💫So no one is actually quilty😵‍💫

@@konczita82 you can't say noone is actually guilty, yes they were victims, but many victim get out of the victim mentality, and don't commit crime, I've known abused children who grew up to be good citizens.

@@TheCureTarot Me too!!!

@@konczita82 It's a cycle

Right! Because the whole world is watching

Doesn't need to at all ! She has nothing to be sorry for... But, you can tell she IS sorry, but, because of someone else's actions.

Agreed! I hope she reads these comments and sees how nicely people talk about her.

It helps her feel better to say it. Probably wishes she could have helped make things different:

She's an enabler.

Not all. I was unwanted. And even had to STAY with a mother that didn't want me. She wouldn't feed me. I weighed 45 pounds at 10 years old. 89 pounds at 18. She started leaving me home alone at age 4. She took my child support money and went on vacations without me. College time came and there was nothing for me for college. Im still in therapy over my childhood. I left out the worst parts. Never in my life did I even want to kill her, much less anybody else.

This is not what happens to unwanted children. I totally disagree. Not to mention he wasn't raised by his biological mom. He was adopted by a successful family who wanted him. So..

@@roxannemoser you know one of the most disappointing parts of life is that most people who are well-to-do will not take help or assistance because they don't want the liability of being obligated to reciprocate to anybody else and that is sad but what is even more sad is that the people like you who deserve all the help to make what was done to you right are neglected because nobody from the affluent side of the tracks wants to venture into the impoverished side because they have to risk life & limb. Also the wealthy tend to not associate with the not wealthy because they will be obligated to give all they have to the poor. So that leaves giving to charity but it's so impersonal, like throwing money into the ether and not knowing who it benefited or how. But that is SO wrong, a burning injustice, that someone like you endures/endured alone. You should be integrated with society who support you and lift you up and go after the ones who wronged you so egregiously.

I’m unwanted, alone, isolated and multiple mental disorders yet ive never thought of even harming a single person

I would want to listen to her too!

Owning it all is one of the main parts of her recovery. Because of her recovery, living and working the Steps and God's grace, she able to live in truth. Bless her 100x.

You are so correct. I was addicted to crack cocaine. I’m 16 years sober, thank God. There’s ppl who still consider me to be a “dopehead”. Those are the ppl who will make you relapse if you let them. I am lucky enough to have a close relationship with God and still fight the shame and depression. I pray a lot 🙏

I judge her as having tremendous courage and remarkable candor.

@@lynnc8188 "That is what some of you WERE" 1 Cor 6:11 Don't let anyone shame you back into addiction. Eph 4:22-24🙏

@@susanbajjada2960 People might think I am crazy but to me the crack was like being possessed by a demon. The good Lord has gotten rid of him for me. I prayed and prayed and I don’t think I have even had a slight craving for probably 10 years. God is good. Thanks for your lovely comment.

@@lynnc8188 Hey Lynn -- YOU MATTER!!! YOU are WORTHY and DESERVE a peaceful and contented life!! I wish for you ALL that you want to BE in your life.

I do too. She was brave to be a witness in a trial that went viral.

She probably had nothing to lose back then but certainly does now, but I get what you're saying.

Me too ;)

Me too

She's not honest. She may be trying to be. However she would have told that many lies in the past she doesn't know what's real and what's not. They convince themself a lie is the truth.

Yeah it was a nice act for her apologising on his mothers behalf that she did not want him as even though cruz did what he did and no apology from him would ever be enough it is still hard to hear that and not have a little sympathy and it would be nice for cruz to remain in contact with this woman as she is the cosest he will get to his birth mother

@@josephmiles7418 well i think its important for us as it shows our humanity fkr still treating him like a human being that he does not have

@@johnshepard8556 yeah i get that, but that treatment should only be for those capable of empathy and remorse. if there is no ability to re-enter society and be a functioning member; you should not get a roof over your head, meals, TV time, etc. on american tax dollars. prison/jail/etc should be rehabilitation for convicts capable of empathy and remorse. otherwise you do not deserve the same emotion, you deserve the same callousness you act with.

She doesn’t look it at all! Her hair is Devine!

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1 John 3:9 🎉

As it always does!

@Jay Absolutely so.! 🙂

There was no reason for the prosecuting attorney to examine her the way he did. She was providing credible testimony about things that happened 20 years ago and it was clear she was doing her best to be honest. He didn’t need to harp on details to try and make her sound like a liar-she had a tough life as is and deserves respect for coming forward to share here-but cross examiner was acting like she was the one on trial not the monster shooter.

@@misstwizzletoes9421 exactly that shits disgusting, “just like ur unsure about the drugs being in ur front pocket right” Like bruh it takes a lot to go up there on television infront of thousands maybe millions and admit to that, she didn’t have to make herself be looked down upon like that, because most people hear drug prostitute and e immediately categorize her as garbage. She didn’t have to do that, nor is she justifying him she’s just giving her testimony to the best of her ability

@@misstwizzletoes9421 Agreed! I’ve disliked how the prosecution has handled some of the witnesses in cross. Especially this lady and Cruz’s sister. These people aren’t getting up there because they want to, nor are they getting up there to defend anyone. They didn’t ask for any of this. To get up on the stand and testify in front of potentially millions of strangers about the most painful aspects of your past is extremely difficult and taxing. Nobody wants to share those kinds of things with the world on a public stage that is being recorded and will forever be on the internet associated with your name. I told very few people in my life that I grew up with an abusive father. Your conscious of the fact that people might look down on you for it, even if it was beyond your control (or in this lady’s case, even if she has changed for the better and has been sober for several decades). I can’t imagine having to go on the stand in a highly publicized trial with people all over the world watching and be expected to detail the painful parts of my own experience. I commend these people for being strong and courageous to share their story, shortcomings, poor choices and traumatic past. It’s disgusting how the prosecution has treated them with such a poor attitude and disrespect, as if they had anything to do with what Nikolas did. Normally for witnesses like this, who aren’t involved in any way with the crime and are just honestly sharing difficult details of their lives to provide background information, whichever side is doing the cross examination (whether prosecution or defense) typically treats them with a lighter/gentler approach and isn’t so harsh, which is how it should be. His demeanor and some of his questions are 100% unnecessary with this witness, and he’s just making the prosecution look bad, which does no favors with the jury.

I agree with what everybody here is saying. I was glued to her’s and Cruz’s sister’s story. I felt bad for both of them. I can’t imagine the stress this put on both of them.

@@firstnamekaty8830 ok feel bad for a murderer

I'm not commenting to disagree with you, but Cruz didn't grow up in this type of environment. He lived in a beautiful home and had a pretty good home life. I think the drugs and alcohol that she took while pregnant had a major impact on his brain development in utero. I have a cousin that was adopted and lived in a good home, my aunt & uncle gave him everything they could, but he couldn't get over the fact that he was adopted, He was always mad & resented them. He was a basketball star in HS, but got into drugs and fell into crime. He never killed anyone, but had robbed his parents of hundreds of thousands and beat his girlfriends...etc. He's been in & out of jail numerous times. He's doing supposedly OK now, but it took him decades to become a more productive member of society.

I think the Prosecutor restrained himself from a full attack which was wise for him to do. He came close to overstepping….

@@tiredofitall9213 we all have a shitty family member like that. But they all have a past. They are orphans. We'll never understand the feeling of being discarded and strangers to your parents. Parebtal rejection in general none of us deal with properly. Even those of us that had parents in the home but were neglective, addicts, or abusive. Well that generates problems in our personality and other relationships everytime. So yours and anyone else's origins matter when there's an outburst especially one of Cruzs magnitude. He's human and has a brain, at the end of the day it's important to understand how the mind goes through the motions of murdering what 14/17 people? I mean the moment I heard it was over a girl and on valentines day I immediately assumed it was some mommy issues, rejected hormonal simp, problematic child type of situation, and that's because thats the only thing this COULD point to. but to have it confirmed though this story and very valid witness, it finally makes him seem like a plausible person/case. Before I couldn't see the full picture and it just was unfathomable. We all make assumptions but until they are confirmed it's just like wtf. How is this demon possible? We all have to try and understand it fully. Think about it, if someone could have recognized how bad he was suffering and he'd found a way to help him cope sooner this might not have happened 🤷‍♀️ same is true for your cousin really. Growing up in a clean or nice home doesn't mean everything's okay thays going on in a childs mind. And some of us just HAVE to experience and make certain mistakes until we are ready to face those demons and finally cope. Some never do, like probably Cruzs mom, while her past "acquaintance" Ms Carol is a compeltley different person and thriving these days.

He is so rude to so many witnesses. Even his own 🙄🙄🙄 I don’t think it’s intentional, I think maybe he’s just very passionate and he’s not aware how he could be portrayed.

Skin color is not relevant here. Bad people come from all walks of life.

Attempt to shred her credibility like as if she was massively lying about the entire nature of who Linda was as an addict and she seems to simply tell him what he wants To hear like yeah I could have gotten that wrong doesn’t make much of a difference now lol I wonder how difficult it may be for nick to hear about his mothers life . You see his head up and avid listening more engaged than he has been the entire Trial.

I personally don’t understand why the cross exam tried so hard to impeach the witness when the witness was to the character of the mother. Kinda weird.

I’ve met a couple of former prostitutes, that are also recovered addicts. They are all like this lady. Kind, honest, with a history of abuse that led them to that lifestyle. It’s amazing how they can overcome such a difficult life and become the wonderful women they were meant to be.

@@mcl7353 Actually, not many people experience far worse than what Nicolas Cruz did. Have you watched the trial? It is pretty bad. Also, I think the comments on this video mean 'starting with his birth' because I've watched a lot of videos on kids with fetal alcohol syndrome etc and basically it's like starting life with a serious handicap. No one is condoning what he did. But having understanding and sympathy is love. Clearly if there was more love in the world then less of this type of thing would happen anyway. His whole life was basically one big mess. And therapy didn't really work for him probably because they had underestimated what level of damage all this stuff his mum fed him through his umbilical cord and the effect it would have had on him. Poor lad. He didn't need to go and do what he did. But up till that point poor, poor lad. He had nothing at all.

He was adopted from birth and grew up in a well-to-do, loving home. Adoptive parents also took his brother in. Only affect would be drug and alcohol abuse in the womb...and perhaps the knowledge he was adopted. Lots of adopted kids that don't commit mass murder. Adoptive father died of a heart attack and adoptive mother died 3 months before he committed the massacre. By all accounts he had a great upbringing and put the adoptive mother through hell

Really? What about Brenda? Do you know what she has been through when she was a child?! And do you have any idea what Brenda parents went through when they were children?! Or Brenda grandparents?!

@@veronicaperezmedia You're seriously missing a hella bunch of information, ma'am.

@@louniece1650 yes there's a lot of information online. Not going to retell it here. However he didn't have a deprived or unloving childhood as people try to make out. Neurologically damaged from what his birth mother did while pregnant with him? No doubt.

But those problem parents were once innocent children with problem parents and so it goes on. We can be empathic to a traumatised child but by the time he is 19 most people don't want to know and discribe them as an evil person. But then we don't have to look a the wider context of how these heinous things happen. Which is what we need to do if we want this to never happen to another child or parent. Our prisons are full of traumatised people who don't know how to emotionally regulate.

So true💔 Love is the key to everything & he didn't even receive it from the person who carried him in her womb. No wonder. I'm not excusing his actions but when you hear what she was taking while pregnant I'm not surprised by his damaged brain, psychological etc. Tragic. Now there are countless victims🙏 Ps 37:10,11

But there are hundreds of thousands of children who are born in similar (and worse) situations, yet they don’t all grow up to be mass murderers.

@@redmoon8217 Absolutely Red Moon. The cycle of addiction goes on and on and on.

i was born addicted to cocaine & i had a rough start to life but i live a great life raising my kids to the best of my ability without hurting people & without addictions of my own except cigarettes. cigarettes are terrible i know but it could be worse.

The process of holding trials is always necessary regardless of the nature or circumstances of the crime in question or whatever the alleged perpetrator says about their involvement in it. Negating that process even once would legitimize emotional rushes to judgment and invite chaos and calamity on the whole society.

Amen to that

@@floridagirl9064 I felt compelled to to tell you.... Nicorette lozenges were the only thing that worked for me. I quit 14 years ago, after 18 years of smoking. Good luck to you, sweetheart. ❤️

Why didn't he have a chance? He was raised with plentiful resources and provided for. He also had a "chance" to not become a mass murderer... I'm curious how you can rationalize his so called lack of chances?

@@Psyminds My ignorance is staggering? That's quite a dramatic thing to say since I commented on only one particular aspect of this case. How could you possibly be able to judge my ignorance on this case as staggering from one comment? A bit out of proportion it seems. Sorry you're having a bad day.

@@jadedbelle2797 I think they were just trying to say that empathy can go a long way.

@@ayvonnebennings4449 I can definitely agree with that statement. Maybe much gets lost in translation when reading and not actually hearing expression in a voice. Thank you for the clarification. Take care!

Yeah. We aren't considering the impact of social media on children at all.

I hope that her story is helpful to others.

@Gabriel De La Garza because I do. It's not easy to have talk about your worst mistakes for the world to hear. AA is contained and everyone is in the same boat. She is clearly uncomfortable. I would not want to do this... Relive my worst self.. And hers was really bad. She should be proud that she worked it out...

makes me wonder what was Brenda's life like when she was just a baby . what type environment she was exposed to . maybe her parents where just like her . its like a chain and you just keep adding links .

@@TheMohawk102 It's definitely multi-generational.

I can understand that. Many people would normally feel that. But at the end of the day only the individual makes the choice to commit murder. I know many people who grew up in horrible circumstances and they are some of the best people I’ve ever met. I guess what im saying is bad things happening to someone never justifies doing bad things to other.

@@NightMedicine literally nobody is making excuses for what he did though… nobody is justifying him. It was obviously his choice.. the defense literally stated themselves that there is no defense, and that he deserves whatever punishment is coming his way. There simply trying to avoid death penalty. That’s there job

@@NightMedicine That is exactly right 👍💯 Nicholas made some bad choices. The abuse he suffered before he was born , I believe stays with the child. 🤷‍♀️ I saw a new born in a hospital nursery, come down off of drugs , it was the worst thing you could imagine seeing , I 😭😭😭while the mom of the new born was shooting up in the bathroom of the hospital. 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 That baby suffered, then & I’m sure still suffers the effects today. Bad choices were made long before Nicholas was born & Nicholas made a very bad choice, for what ever reason he killed all these young adults . It was wrong. 💔😢💔😢💔😢💔😢

@@debikaip3699 it's heart shattering all around. This shouldn't be happening. Doctors should've kept tabs on Nickolas growing up and he should've been in therapy as a child.

It proves that mental illness is a very big contributing factor when crimes happen IMO.

It shows exactly how easy it is to go down a bad road and then allow that trauma to trickle down. Then add in fetal alcohol syndrome and mental illness. My mom was similar to Brenda in a sense. My father raised my from age 4 but allowed visits. I forgave her in time and have done my best to go in the opposite direction. I’m proud of where I am but have I had similarities ABSOLUTELY

@@camillerodriguez5161 I always try to tell people that but people will always try to say I’m wrong !

@@beautifiedpro8712 I think most people won’t understand until they’ve lived with mental illness or have seen it in their daily life. The mind is a powerful thing and it can go either way, if left untreated things can get very dark for some people.