Gabor Mate: The Childhood Lie That’s Ruining All Of Our Lives. | E193

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The Diary Of A CEO
The Diary Of A CEO 2 aylar önce
This is one of my top 3 favourite episodes of all time. Genuinely changed me. Please hit the like button on the video if you like this guest 🙏🏽
smajliiicka
smajliiicka 19 saatler önce
Thank you for bringing Gabor ❤️🔥🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Wendy Cox
Wendy Cox 5 gün önce
Unpleasant interruption with the American Express card promotion & the huelo/health ad promotion were intrusive.
Lorraine Arseneault
Lorraine Arseneault 5 gün önce
@BoxOfMarzipan Yes what are the other two?
Patricia Knudsen
Patricia Knudsen 6 gün önce
Anxiety bipolar ADHD and other such conditions are directly caused by consuming pasteurized cow milk and all products from cow milk cheese sour cream ice cream butter Etc. I have personally encountered a father whose child exhibited these symptoms. He traveled once a week to Pennsylvania to buy the child unpasteurized milk and once that child switched from pasteurized to unpasteurized milk all of the conditions disappeared quickly also a friend of his had a daughter who is cutting herself along with other mental disorders the same thing they switched her to unpasteurized cow milk and Cow products and all of the conditions disappeared. Pasteurized milk comes from very sick cows who have had added hormones and steroids they exhibit all sorts of diseases and take antibiotics for same. Their food is an abomination this is what's causing these disorders and More in human beings.
Erica Smith
Erica Smith 6 gün önce
I deeply appreciate this share. This is information I have spent decades attempting to obtain and inner-stand. Much of Gabor's information here was conformation that my nondegree holding self is on the right track with my future endeavors to provide sanctuary that facilitates healing these dis-eases, and even more so he shed light on piecing together things that were not yet fit into this puzzle. His information is a well-being of mental gold I wish I had known about decades ago. Nonetheless, it was obtained, heard, and absorbed yet, regardless of when or where in life. 🙌💝 I will be adding his book(s) to my educational and informative growth collection. Thank you, thank you.. to both of you.. for being TheeU!!🌌💞🙃🤗
mike sheridan
mike sheridan 2 aylar önce
My father was prone to rage. Mum would often say we'd walk on eggshells around him. His anger could well up at any time and especially around practical things like mowing the lawn, packing the car or on the rare occasion when we went on holiday. He was a workaholic and moved us constantly for his "career". By the age of 15 we have moved 9 times and I went to seven different schools from the north of Scotland to the S East of England. To this day he sees it as our failing that my brother, sister & I didn't "do well" at school. I became a workaholic myself & know I was also trying to prove my worth and I carried a lot of learnt behaviors. I felt strongly that unless I carried a "big job title", made money, drove a big car and lived in a "good area" etc. I would never gain his respect or feel worthy. Bonkers I know! Thankfully I was able to stop, getting off the hampster wheel aged 57 when the doctor told me I was carrying critical hypertension. I've move to N Devon to be by the sea, work part time and mostly ride my bicycle. I'm walking the SW coast path at weekends. I'm also trying to rediscovery my sense of self and what an authentic life looks like now. Good luck everyone.
Anita Bonita
Anita Bonita Gün önce
Would you admit however that not all you absorbed from your parenting - even that which had negative effects - was harmful? I.e. there were positive effects? I'm not trying to excuse your father... what your post calls to mind is a book by Debbie Ford, called, "The Dark Side of the Light Chasers"... We need to understand the facets to our selves, as well as to our parents' selves, I believe, for peace. I haven't quite "got there" with my own mother, for I didn't really feel loved and accepted by her. Funnily enough, both of my daughters struggle with some degree of the same issue.
darlaverkamp324
darlaverkamp324 2 gün önce
@Ann Oxley the way to unlearn is to never hate him. To hate brings dwelling and dwelling brings reliving what you hate which in return makes you become what you hate! My mother taught me to never hate my father as I was growing up. To this day I could never hate anyone. I truly love my father unconditionally even though my upbringing was unbearable at times. God bless you for being so strong!
darlaverkamp324
darlaverkamp324 2 gün önce
Your life was my life!
Grumpy Git
Grumpy Git 4 gün önce
@Stacey Obrien with narcissistic tendencies
Stacey Obrien
Stacey Obrien 4 gün önce
He sounds like someone I know who has BPD (high functioning).
Boo *
Boo * Aylar önce
Repressed anger and embarrassment, shame , works itself out as Depression, and a life full of drugs to survive!! Face your past. You already lived through it.
ChaseroftheLight1
ChaseroftheLight1 14 gün önce
@Robert Matheson you got this. ❤️‍🔥(as they say) look what you’ve already overcome.
James Spencer
James Spencer 14 gün önce
Yes!!!
Robert Matheson
Robert Matheson 22 gün önce
I like your comment and for me maybe how to proceed in this area. now to figure out how to proceed.
Bob Cat
Bob Cat Aylar önce
ty
ChaseroftheLight1
ChaseroftheLight1 Aylar önce
🌹
Jbear
Jbear 2 aylar önce
Only recently realized that my constant anxiety is a reaction to my parents' untreated issues
Misael Quinones
Misael Quinones 7 gün önce
People need to stop having kids to make themselves look good.
Dgsd
Dgsd 11 gün önce
But then they have become your issues...so now it's on you, on all of us to care for ourselves. Probably only so our children can then tell us our untreated issus caused their anxiety.
93ShogunateDaimyo77
93ShogunateDaimyo77 12 gün önce
At er decades of struggle, when there usually didn't need to be one, and crippling anxiety I realized I was raised by a mother with undiagnosed mental illness. I have a strong feeling much of this world's suffering are from the same.
Katrina
Katrina 13 gün önce
@Cody Barry I have had similar. My dr sent me to specialists and we did many tests. None of them could find the cause. They finally said it could be stress. 6 months of itching hives all over my body, 24/7. It was torture.
SyritasDoneitGoodyTwoShoes
SyritasDoneitGoodyTwoShoes 25 gün önce
possibly alludes to 75% of the World Population...truthfully speaking
Jacqueline Mora
Jacqueline Mora Aylar önce
I couldn’t sleep tonight due to me having a lot of trauma I’m healing as a 26 year old adult , I’m a mother of 4 … and I wish I would’ve educated myself about parenting before having my kids. I’m grateful everyday for being capable to Over come my trauma and heal generational trauma !!! I hope one day more parents open up to the reality of being a parent , of being a human being 🧡 I appreciate this information so much !!! Thank you ❤️‍🩹
Tara Leigh
Tara Leigh 6 gün önce
This is so true. Wish I'd known before having mine too but I'm lucky that they understand that I have severe trauma and know I'm trying to heal.
M
M 16 gün önce
So great to hear when someone is doing better and continuously working on it, and especially that your children are a motivation to you rather than used as an excuse like many do. If you liked Gabor Mate I think you'll like Gordon Neufeld, he has a lot more information on what to do and how childhood development works, as opposed to what to avoid.
Another Truth
Another Truth Aylar önce
@Nerdy Nellie same here
Radio Psychic Astrology for Insomniacs & Most Cats
Radio Psychic Astrology for Insomniacs & Most Cats Aylar önce
@Nerdy Nellie I hope you are continuing to heal along with Jaqueline who is still so young at 25, half my age. I'm sorry I so feared my generational and ancestral trauma perpetuating that I prevented myself from parenting. I'm too old now to be a mother, I don't have any grandchildren because I never had any children. My only brother committed suicide when I was 21 and I've attempted to reach out to his children but I've never really gotten much response. I'm so alone in a human sense. I've developed some semi self medicating behavior s in the last couple of years to deal with my physical pain before being diagnosed with two debilitating degenerative forms of arthritis this past autumn. I pray often and spend time with my cats, my fish. I'm hoping I have some good remaining to offer the world. I'm not sure why I'm lingering on in this world if not and maybe there isn't a reason. Maybe. I'm not sure.... I don't want to remove myself from the world myself, but I don't want to be who isn't welcome here? I'm not good at being inauthentic, I'm a shitty liar, I'm not a good actor. Maybe that's not fair the best. Look at the spoils it's brought me! Love who you love, I know that I've never loved anyone or anything half assed. And that's why I miss those that are no longer with us/me. And I regret any decision my ignorance may have made me choose then which remove people still among the living still now from my present life. I'm sorry if I didn't have the wisdom that I might have now, maybe that's what bad to occur to keep me from doing even more harm? But it's a very lonely time in my heart now. To have loved so many so hard and be left so quietly alone in physical pain, it's an interesting turn of events. At least the pain is more about my body than my soul. I'm not in doubt that I was once loved in turn by some remarkable people and cats and I know for this I've been very lucky and very blessed. 🍀&☘️.
Nerdy Nellie
Nerdy Nellie Aylar önce
I'm grateful for your sake that you've recognized this now while they're young. I didn't until I had 2 adults that I'd pulled into the cycle before I realized it. All is good now, but I struggle with my children's experience being so colored by my own. I wish you happiness and healing.
V King
V King Aylar önce
OK...this interview had SO MUCH content that I'm going to have to watch it again. One thing for sure: I'm going to have to read Gabor Maté's books!
Pumpkin Narrowboat Adventures
Pumpkin Narrowboat Adventures 13 gün önce
Ditto 😊
jennifer the skeptic
jennifer the skeptic 19 gün önce
It had no content just a load of unsupported opinions
bradley244ify
bradley244ify Aylar önce
As an older person, I find coming to terms with the idea that chances are good I will need to rely on the kindness of strangers as my life comes to an end and that as a youngest child in my natal family no one in my life will have an intimate connection with my childhood. Solitude is indeed the sentence for living a long life. I need to work much harder at becoming my own best friend.
somewhereisgone
somewhereisgone 10 gün önce
There are people of all ages who would be lucky to connect with you and form friendship, you never have to be alone in this world if you don't want to be. Always feel open to reaching out, so many people need someone as well.
S Underwood
S Underwood 20 gün önce
I’m sorry it’s like that! We definitely need to rethink some of our cities and layouts! I once worked in construction and we worked in this huge mall in south Florida that had like two stories of apartments on top of it, it was cool to meet a lot of the older society that lived in the apartments,you had everything you could possibly need or want in the stores and malls, including health centers, entertainment and all kinds of food choices, a way to get all kinds of exercise and companionship,when you get tired you just go upstairs! I think we should rethink our cities into more places like that! You can even work or volunteer or just hang out! They were all having such a great time! Even people in wheelchairs or limited mobility had great times! I hope something like this opens up for you! We weren’t created to have so much aloneness! You can grow new neuropathways ! You’d be surprised how easy it is, just writing with your other hand has great results, you actually get a little emotional as they grow but it balances out,you can restableize your balance and muscles gently with the right equipment! That 60 and up machine I feel like they should be standard provision once we reach retirement! Don’t give up! Ever ! Let’s get on this reinvention of our communities,they were having a blast living like that! I’m alone too and I’m from a huge family! Lived in the country for so long then moved to the city it’s nice in nature but it’s also nice all the cool places on the pavement! Hope you have fun!
R S
R S 22 gün önce
You need to go to therapy. Go every week at very least. You can reinvent yourself and your life. Solitude is not necessary when you live a long life. You’re making a choice but a therapist can be good comoany & set you on a good path. If you’re still here that means you have work to do in this world. You have a contribution to make.
christine chambers
christine chambers Aylar önce
I was born in the 1950’s when mental illness was demonized and treated like a disciplinary problem. I suffered from bipolar disorder and had a miserable childhood. There has been a long line of mental illness in my family which is why I never had children. I was too damaged. I didn’t feel like my own person until my parents passed away.
CDCanada
CDCanada Aylar önce
My Dad was a bully and was filled with rage. Now I'm the same. It's really hard to go through the cycle of rage and regret, rage and regret. I'm not an evil person but I often feel like a monster.
Grumpy Git
Grumpy Git 5 gün önce
Why don't you forgive yourself and just move on. Be the person you really are not the monster
M
M 16 gün önce
Check out CPTSD as described by Pete Walker, and especially the description of the Fight type which I suspect you will relate to a lot.
S Underwood
S Underwood 20 gün önce
It does make you just sick when you find yourself acting just like what you hated doesn’t it! Hang in there! The battle of the ptsd and the self medicating or being given psychotropics have been proven again and again that it’s more harmful! Because they have their own problems, alcohol has alcohol problems, psychotropics have psychotropic problems, and both aggravate the ptsd and cripple you physically so you get more angry and short tempered! But I truly believe you can ease out of it! There are a lot of factors that aren’t genetic or learned, like environmental things like radon exposure or the chemicals in the waters that could be causing it too! I hope you get a hold on it! Hang in there! Hope you find great things that makes your heart smile!
R S
R S 22 gün önce
Why did you have children knowing you were abused? Get into regular therapy asap. Never stop going. Make managing the trauma caused by your abuser your highest priority.
Beheshta Siddiqui
Beheshta Siddiqui 24 gün önce
@Diana B I do study my own behavior as objective as i can. Hope to heal myself. Thanks for the kind words it's appreciated 🙏 🥰😍
MsJ
MsJ 2 aylar önce
This should be a required watch for every “educator” in the public school system across America. I am a one woman army advocating for my child with AD(H)D.
PilzMadchen
PilzMadchen 2 gün önce
One of the first courses educators take today is how the brain develops. Spent most of my career working in elementary schools with extreme poverty where identifying and supporting children with trauma was our top priority. This meant, lots of professional development on childhood trauma. Even armed with this knowledge, it is an impossible feat without government funding. Schools do not have the manpower for the volume of children who come to school with trauma and special needs. It isnt uncommon in today's classroom for children to have sever behavioral deficits. The age doesn't matter, a five year old will throw a desk just like an 15 year old. What role does the Educator, who is alone with 20+ other children in a classroom take on in that moment? Therapist or educator? Because of constant educational funding cuts, there isn't anyone to call for help. The police officer on campus is responsible keeping infiltrators with guns at bay. The disruption has now caused an interruption with academics, maybe for the day. If you're lucky just one day because the child will be back the next day most likely without any intervention. And as the Educator, you know you'll be held accountable for the ALL your students academic progress. Now you're not just an educator to 20+, now you are also their therapist without the pay or a life. While I agree, mental is desperately needed in our schools, it cannot and should not be the sole responsibility of our teachers who are already over worked and underpaid. It is up to our government to fund the physical presence of mental health providers and services in our schools. ✌🕊☮
M
M 16 gün önce
If you liked listening to Gabor Mate I think you'd also like talks by Gordon Neufeld, he specifically has some things on attention and attachment that are really good.
Michael Smith
Michael Smith Aylar önce
You are so right that educators and administrators need to understand adhd much better and teach accordingly. With patience and understanding. Please know that there are many, many parents or a parent struggling with being a lone advocate for their AD(H)D child you are not alone.
Fishofgold6
Fishofgold6 Aylar önce
Does your child also snore during sleep or have sleep apnoea? I have heard from Dr Mike Mew and Dr Derek Mahoney (both orthodontists) that many children's ADHD is caused by poor sleep quality due to inadequate air supply during sleep.
I B
I B Aylar önce
Gabor is incredible. He has blown my mind in so many ways.. and i'm at work here crying at his early childhood story. Hard to hear.
I B
I B 19 gün önce
@jennifer the skeptic how so? Elaborate
jennifer the skeptic
jennifer the skeptic 19 gün önce
if he blew your mind, I would look further because his opinion doesnt hold true.
Kari F
Kari F 2 aylar önce
If only we could heal emotional childhood traumas with the knowledge and rational thinking we have as adults...
Mike Hie
Mike Hie 6 gün önce
They say live or die but thats not living thats pred and prey being able to shut ur emotions off is my problem but I'm still alive because of it don't hurt don't care don't open scars fade ur mind renews to remind u of what made those scars
Stoned Ape!
Stoned Ape! 28 gün önce
Psilocybin mushroooms!!!!!! The stidies coming out now (finally!!) Are so insanely promising. Mushrooms help heal traumas in ways that ate hatd to believe. Cam be like years of therapy all fit into one day. I'm nit exaggerating here in the least either. Mushrooms are the key ❤️❤️🐵🍄🐵🍄❤️❤️
ItsJustMe...Whitney
ItsJustMe...Whitney Aylar önce
We def can
Suzanne Mills-Wemm
Suzanne Mills-Wemm Aylar önce
That's the thing! WE CAN heal our own emotional childhood trauma by realizing the difference between truth and the lies that weve told ourselves, and then repackaging the story (memory) in your favor with compassion for that child. Those old memories rarely come up (unless you bring them up to feast on those emotions again) and if they do - strike them down again with truth. They go away! I swear. Then you heal physically.
C Garcia
C Garcia Aylar önce
You can when you stop seeing it through the eyes of a child.
K I M B E R L Y.유
K I M B E R L Y.유 Aylar önce
I was in an orphanage for the first year of my life. I had a mother like the host described who constantly screamed and berated my father while he just sat there. I have pretty severe ADD, and although medicated, I still struggle with it. I have realized over time how my fear of abandonment had manifested in different ways. I had always thought of it as some crazy girlfriend who couldn’t stand the though of her boyfriend leaving. But just like ADD the symptoms and the problems that it can create can look different than many people think. Over the past four years, I have worked really hard at removing toxic people from my life and distancing the ones I couldnt, like my mother. I have stopped being a people pleaser and have started to put myself first in a healthy, secure way. I really enjoyed this video as it touched on so many parts of my life. Thank you. And Yes, I subscribed!! ❤
Julia Spencer
Julia Spencer Aylar önce
I’m also adopted and also have had a lifelong struggle with ADD, depression, and anxiety. I was left in the hospital for two weeks after I was born because I had thrush, which is a minor yeast infection. I got the message early on that if I wasn’t perfect, love and attention would be withheld. My dad was the angry, irrational parent. My mother just withdrew. It amazes me that so many adoption agencies did such a lousy job of vetting potential parents. Adoptees need unconditional love and extra security and reassurance, not rage and chaos.
Raymand88
Raymand88 2 aylar önce
Absolute mind opener. This is the first time I have heard Gabor speak. What he says makes so much sense. As a human we struggle to articulate our thoughts around trauma, as it is. Sometimes we don’t know we are carrying trauma. And then when we do, a sudden realisation can cause an earth shattering experience but also begin healing. I will watch this again 🙂
LJM
LJM Aylar önce
He (Gabor) has been a warrior, getting into people's psyche and traumas where others have feared to tread. He exposed himself authentically in the process. This is invaluable work that has, in my opinion, started a process of unravelling the past, the hurts, the dysfunction so we may wake up and do much better and actually shift our experience on earth to a whole new level. The planet needs to take off the coat of self inflicted traumas and wake up, for good. Thank you Gabor Mate and thank you interviewer.
Ryan Walters
Ryan Walters Aylar önce
Thought it incredible when you spoke about having the gift of a brain tumor, what kind of a gift is a tumor. I already knew. When I was 3, my father was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Though it would eventually take my father in the end, endless memories are left from my time with my father, I never took that for granted and as I grew up, I used that in every way I could. I learned I appreciated and enjoyed a great deal more in life than most. Thanks to the tumor my father had. He taught me a lot about integrity and character in the face of death and the healing powers of laughter and love. My lessons allow me a priceless outlook on life.
Innominated
Innominated Aylar önce
Oh man... Flashback to realizing I had a narcissist mother, because she literally told myself and my brother when our father was fooling around and wanted to leave us, that it was because of us kids! My father was violent, and both my parents absolute control freaks. I was shamed and affronted not just for my expression regarding something, but literally for having individual personal feelings.
Michael Herring
Michael Herring 29 gün önce
My poor wife had a mother that physically abused her from a very young age. Her Mother had experienced a traumatic event when her Mother died unexpectedly . My wife was born when her Mother was 18. Her Mother was 15 when her mother died. She would blame my poor wife for the fact that my wife had another, but she didn’t. She also lied to my wife by constantly screaming at her that her mother died when she was a small child, but she was 15. Then to make matters worse, she physically abused my wife from the age of one. Until the age of 14. Then the emotional abuse started. She would also constantly tell my wife she wanted a son, not a daughter. Today my wife is 51. We have a 26 year old daughter thriving because my wife broke the abuse cycle. However, my wife has cut her Mother off completely. It’s been five years now. She feels guilty for cutting her Mother off, but she is happier. On top of that she grew up with parents screaming at each other. That is something she has not been able to stop. The shouting. Its ‘normal’ for her, but she is starting to realise it’s not good. But it’s so part of her DNA, she can’t help herself. She is also addicted to Xanax and she tells me that no matter what happens, she is always scared. She is always anxious and she just can’t let go.
Nerdy Nellie
Nerdy Nellie Aylar önce
@Janet Hagen she's amazing
Nerdy Nellie
Nerdy Nellie Aylar önce
same here. I'm so sorry and hope you're healing now.
ZAtoMlzX ZAnaMoLzY
ZAtoMlzX ZAnaMoLzY Aylar önce
@john gilnitz It's almost like I said otherwise...
john gilnitz
john gilnitz Aylar önce
@ZAtoMlzX ZAnaMoLzY that doesnt make it less of an abuse.
Siaba Tumoe
Siaba Tumoe Aylar önce
This generation needs him. So grateful for his wisdom ❤😊
Al Tu
Al Tu Aylar önce
At the end we realize that no child has perfect childhood
LadyFoxHound
LadyFoxHound 2 aylar önce
i was Diagnosed w Rheumatoid Arthritis last yr after yrs of symptoms and i believe Gabor totally. i was put on hydroxichloroquin and felt better and then stopped taking it, and was in a much lower stress job environment and my symptoms subsided a lot.
Oya Hassan
Oya Hassan 2 aylar önce
So much is documented about the impact of childhood trauma and how we maladapt, but can we have more guidance on how we can shift this in adulthood to become more empowered adults.
Tami Bryceland
Tami Bryceland 2 aylar önce
RE:Grooming....I have 2 daughters.First was born in beautiful happy times, the other in a marriage in turmoil. I can see how my youngest is compromised by it.Breaks my heart.Trying to "undo" some of that in raising her but know she'll struggle more than my firstborn.So Interesting!
Maryam Ashfaq Hussain
Maryam Ashfaq Hussain Aylar önce
It’s not been 20 minutes listening to this interview that I am sobbing away like a child. My childhood memories are flashing through my mind and I can now identify so many instances which have shaped me into what I am now and it’s very emotional. Dr. Mate, thank you.
syncopium
syncopium Aylar önce
This is the best interview of Dr Gabor Mate I have seen. His insights are illuminating all the dark parts about our psyche and mental mechanisms that unconsciously keep us from truly living instead of reacting... Thank you for this great video
David Rice
David Rice Aylar önce
The best thing I’ve watched anywhere for a very long time. Great job done by both parties. Thank you.
Sebastian Lyall
Sebastian Lyall 2 aylar önce
You got a great therapy lesson from a great man (who sadly doesn’t do one to one therapy anymore) ❤
angelusa73
angelusa73 2 aylar önce
I head about this man for quite some time and I admire him for being such a strong man and doctor and survivor. I heard his work and listen to hid videos and what touched me the most is when you said that the child in the mother's belly hears and feels everything that the mother does. I FELT IT for my whole life and I was never believed when I shared my feelings about this. I wish I could tell him what I know he would say to me: It's not your fault and your mom loved you for sure but the situation cause what you feel. I am sure you are MORE THAN ENOUGH and your work helped many. I agree that listening is extremely important. I also felt that stress was the cause of many of my health issues. STRESS has huge impact on the body. We have known it for a very long time but many are not aware of it and don't believe it. Trauma is a wound and I think forgiving is a good way to let go of the trauma emotions and don't feel the same pain that I used to feel. Angela Umbria Italy
Francesca Panetta
Francesca Panetta Aylar önce
I love Gabor & I love this podcast. His answer to that second last question made me tear up. Even after more than 70 years on this earth, he’s still looking for a way to be comfortable with himself & his own mind. As someone in my mid 20’s (who was just diagnosed with adhd earlier this year) I find myself looking for the same answer all the time. It’s the thing I think about most. I can’t imagine living another 5 decades without finding it
Jennifer W-C
Jennifer W-C Aylar önce
BTW - excellent hosting too. Great preparation and great engagement and questions. Worked well!
Stephanie McDowell
Stephanie McDowell 2 aylar önce
Gabor's teachings and point of view reminds me a lot of my therapist. He's an awesome reminder of what I learned from her. Thank you for this episode!
sowelusoundz
sowelusoundz Aylar önce
Ive heard of Gabor Mate but this is the first time I listened to him speak and wow the wealth of information! I love how both of you get very personal about your own life experiences. Kept me interested and engaged til the very last word! Thank you for this!!
Angelica Chandrasekeran
Angelica Chandrasekeran 2 aylar önce
So glad this is being said by someone considered a professional in the "mental health sector". Hopefully this will temper the overemphasis on diagnosis and medication and focus on working on improving the environment, caregivers and coping strategies especially in Sri Lanka which seems to be following a dangerous trend
Monika Cherkaoui
Monika Cherkaoui 2 aylar önce
I´m so touched by this interview. Struggeling my whole life with early childhood trauma, which repeats itself over decades and decades, working and walking through pain and deception (awareness is my mantra :-) ) and still unhappy when I snap again and again I became a very strong person not easy to handle for any stringpullers. But Gabor Mates words remind me never to give up, continue my way of awareness and change even there are only little steps. Thank you
Vibin hi
Vibin hi Aylar önce
This was a truly beautiful and enlightening episode. Thanks to this I just realised that what I thought was calm and my way of 'handling' a situation could actually be suppressed anger. I always wondered how it was that I took a certain outwardly explosive and cruel situation in my life so calmly. Now I probably have to dig deeper...yikes
Betty MacLennan
Betty MacLennan 2 aylar önce
So great to hear this and I could feel a kindred Spirit,although my mother was a convinced Nazi who after the war married a Scottish soldier. She had to then go to Scotland with him as her strict father(who had hated the Nazis and spent several years in Russian camps)I only was released from the bonding of my mother who held me responsible for having to leave her homeland. And like this gentleman I have never felt good about myself because I was never good enough for mother. Thank you for this open interview
Sechaba Diphoko
Sechaba Diphoko Aylar önce
This needs a second round cause there's more to be unpacked. Thank you in advance.
Raven Art
Raven Art 2 aylar önce
I really appreciated all of this- and especially the last bit re being able to just 'be' with ourself. Thank you both for your honesty and vulnerability. We are all just walking each other home xo
Chassie Nix ☀️ The Holy Grail
Chassie Nix ☀️ The Holy Grail Aylar önce
I have noticed with the rising use of technology for gratification and instant answers, that the ADD/ADHD cases are on the rise, which is why more children of the technology age are diagnosed. Great interview, thanks
BPS11111
BPS11111 Aylar önce
Thank you for the info Dr. Mate. Thanks for this good interview of him.
Adam Razick
Adam Razick Aylar önce
It’s unreal that I have a few short memories that my father till this day doesn’t believe of when we lived in New York because we moved to Philadelphia when I was 2 … yet I still remember the toy airplane I had , and can describe it to a T , or even a day when I was 4 and my uncle took me to Burger King when Teenage mutant ninja turtles were there due to the movie coming out… mind u im 36 now and remember them so vividly it amazes me , but threw out life I have alot of moments that I remember vividly and a smell or taste will bring me to a day where I remember a scene from that day down to the strangers faces I’ve only seen 1x
Jonny Morpeth
Jonny Morpeth Aylar önce
I've watched this man present many lectures, and I think he's an absolute Genius!
D NK
D NK Aylar önce
Thank you for doing this awesome interview with Dr. Mate! Much appreciated.
Margrét Oddný
Margrét Oddný Aylar önce
It is always great to listen to Gabor. I found it interesting to hear Steven talk about ADHD as something bad and that ADHD people are broken. That is not the self image the ADHD people around me have. Also no ADHD person around me says that ADHD is genetic (even though it runs in families, sensitivity like Gabor talked about). But still most ADHD people talk about being born with it or developing it very early. Just like autism. Both are perfectly normal, not a disease or disorder, just a different neurotype. Different but not less.
Anthony DiLeonardo
Anthony DiLeonardo Aylar önce
I was able to deconstruct and deal with my life because of Dr. Mate......after listening to him for hours, it all made sense
Za n
Za n Aylar önce
Thank you. I am astonished that animals are still experimented upon, in horrific ways, even to study mental illness in humans 🤯 . Great questions! Thank you.
BraveNewWorld
BraveNewWorld Aylar önce
I feel like my trauma was so unnecessary and almost petty when I think about it as I get older. I think I'm healing I've never shied away from my memories and I used to cry and get so depressed. My children are growing wonderfully, I'm evolving still and I'm happy with the skills I've learned over the decades especially coping skills. I've recently started reading self development books because I want to maintain the energy I've developed that is bringing me everything that's making me happy on this awfully volatile planet. And I'm noticing some of what's written I've been doing this whole time and before I got on the road to consciously develop myself.. My children are motivated and meek yet assertive my son is strong creative my daughter is wise and highly academic and community driven. Couldn't be more grateful considering the childhood I had. I lived with PTSD my whole life. I can remember being forced to use a spoon with my Right hand from the age of 2 my earliest memories start from there because they are mostly laced with some sort of trauma from that age on
Venera Stika
Venera Stika Aylar önce
Beautiful conversation! Well done and thank you ❤
A K
A K 2 aylar önce
This is the first of your videos I have seen. I gave it I like because I found it very informative and you conducted the interview very well 👍 I bought Gabor's book following this video
Mary Brantly
Mary Brantly 2 aylar önce
Outstanding!!! This is my first exposure to Gabor Mate in the depth of my journey. What a contribution to life. Thank you sir!
John W
John W 2 aylar önce
This is a great interview. So much excellent information. I purchased Gabor's book and love it.
Tim Anderson
Tim Anderson Aylar önce
Resonates immensely. My son vs my daughter fits the ADHD sensitivity model being put forward. My daughter is very strong and my son(s) are very sensitive souls. Such a great episode.
Tearloch
Tearloch Aylar önce
A brilliant, compassionate soul .. a Treasure to those who can hear.
Sheryl Ferraro
Sheryl Ferraro Aylar önce
This is a little left field but I just loved that Dr Mate referred to newly born rats as infants and as neonates. Trying to figure out why this struck me so. This made me smile a lot.
Mike Rockwood
Mike Rockwood Aylar önce
First let me say how sorry to hear what you went through. We all need to know how to get through this.
Jennifer
Jennifer Aylar önce
18:00 "people want to be heard when they're dying"....... Me: People need...to be heard when they're living. And at the end, they will have a fulfilling, peaceful death because they weren't emotionally abandoned during their life. And also, growing up in poverty, isn't the only ..poverty. Relatable to this as a child of narcissist abuse and gaslighting, also the blessings of crosses, pain and suffering..they ARE blessings because you learn patience, with others and self. Perseverance, fortitude, PURPOSE out of pain -- unless of curse, you're ..a narcissist.
Richard Zalesky
Richard Zalesky Aylar önce
Ive just come across this podcast, having seen Stephen Fry and now Dr Mate, and Im amazed how excellent, intelligent, empathetic and listening you are, Steven, bravo! Im not interested in business, so pls keep inviting guys like this (plus Peterson included) 🙂
norxgirl1
norxgirl1 Aylar önce
Love Gabor Mate! Love the interviewer!
Bill Ayieko
Bill Ayieko 2 aylar önce
We will all learn to heal. I love you all for sharing. Thank you
Patricia Shelton
Patricia Shelton 2 aylar önce
I was a stay at home mom, I was there every minute for my children. Then I had to push them into the hands of society, school. Where they learned bullying, hate, how the teachers acted different towards the kids whom parents owned a business, or were significant in the community. All the self esteem I built up in them, the system tore it down. No matter how I tried, all I heard from my children is, you don't understand, you tell us we're pretty, smart, an everything because you love us, they don't love us, so they must be telling us the truth. Society is sick, full of hate and greed. You can't save your children from it, only keep telling them and showing them you love them. But there comes a time, when your love isn't enough, they want friends and fit in. It's hard being a parent.
Darlene Carter
Darlene Carter Saatler önce
The worst educator is the one that graduates a child, that still doesn't know their own worth!
Kathleen Fuller
Kathleen Fuller 2 gün önce
I couldn't have said it better even though mine weren't affected until a few years after they left home because they were homeschooled. Even though their friends envied the life they had and called me mom; eventually, they wanted to fit in where it was not good for them. It's really sad when they don't have the courage of their convictions.
sheriece05ify
sheriece05ify 5 gün önce
It depends. Private schools are a little less harsh. Bullying isn’t allowed or the principal and parent is getting involved. That’s how I was raised and I had the best childhood. It’s either a parenting thing or school you select for your child.
Nude Nut
Nude Nut 5 gün önce
This sounds a little creepy to me. You don't mention creating any sort of foundation for resilience in your children. (in the visible part that I read). In fact, this seems to be less about your children than it is about your persecution by "the system". What if, you're creating the trauma in your own kids right now and they'll be talking to a professional about you in their adult years? I'm kidding, I don't know you and probably only read a small portion of what you wrote. But yeah, a little creepy.
theCosmicQueen
theCosmicQueen 7 gün önce
i noticed that too. my kids learned bad things after starting school. they seemed to be shaped by it and adopted the things they were told. that's not good, kids need protected for longer than that. so home schooling took root in the usa, and there are so many doing it, that now there are home school groups that are supervised by parents. that's a good alternative. instead of just being thrown in among all kinds of adults and kids with some pathological effects rubbing off from them, and loss of the good beliefs.
Tony Esfandiari
Tony Esfandiari Aylar önce
Your guest is amazing- thank you
Cherish Chee
Cherish Chee 23 gün önce
There is a reason why Dr Gabor Mate is revered by so many. His insights, humility and humanity is beyond. Love him so much.
Jennifer Korona-Huffman
Jennifer Korona-Huffman Aylar önce
Don’t ask why the addiction, ask why the pain ❤
Jeffrey Kaufmann
Jeffrey Kaufmann 2 gün önce
@Constance knudsen The reverse is also true. There are people who grew up in dysfunctional homes and suffer from mental illness but would never try a drug or even drink Alcohol cause they know it will make the problem worse. A person who is emotionally very stable might try a drug like Ecstasy simply out of curiosity. Especially when they are told by their friends how amazing it feels. It's not because of a weakness. More like a desire to experience a New Sensation that you can't get when you don't take drugs.
Constance knudsen
Constance knudsen 2 gün önce
@Jeffrey Kaufmann Ofc, but usually there is always a reason behind it all. Maybe the parents are great but they still have issues that affect the children.. Maybe the person has adhd weakness that makes it crucial for them to not have ´great parents´ but PERFECT parents, and of course there is school and friends, aaaand we also have society:)) Any person can have a good life but then they start doing drugs anyways. Maybe they got abandomnent issues because of something their doctor told their parents to do (leave the baby when they are crying etc) - And any person with bad issues or parents could heal if they had community or a good society, but most dont. This is why i travel around to communities with open minded people. ~~
Jeffrey Kaufmann
Jeffrey Kaufmann 3 gün önce
Even people who grew up with great parents can develop a drug addiction
Neltins
Neltins 3 gün önce
So many adults still keep thinking "the past doesn't' matter at all stop complaining stop whining about the first 13 years of your life" they don't understand you aren't blaming your parents for anything, its no ones fault, you're just piecing together how some of the behaviors & coping mechanisms of your parents caused you to have dysfunctional or negative traits as well to help you be conscious & aware of them, stop all the dysfunction or negative behavior impacting yourself or others. The truth is, being neglected or abused as a child 100s - 1000s of times or dealing with narcissistic parents the first 13 years of your life doesn't just magically go away.
theCosmicQueen
theCosmicQueen 7 gün önce
well, both. addiction is because of pain. pain is because of_____ and ______. starting at the present and working back.
journeylvr
journeylvr Aylar önce
This interview should be a requirement in High School Health classes. Educate the future generation of prospective parents!!!
MsGEW
MsGEW Aylar önce
This man Gabor turned his trauma into serving humanity with his knowledge which cannonly be so valuable cause he didn t learn this all from books but from his own o w n experiences which apparently he managed to overcome .
Margaret Greenwood
Margaret Greenwood Aylar önce
I have waited 80 years to be able to understand. My eternal gratitude to you both
David England
David England 7 gün önce
Never too late ❤ love
Aca
Aca 9 gün önce
Wow., this video captivated me with its incredible insights. Thank you. 🇨🇦👏💕
Luna Bridges
Luna Bridges 9 gün önce
Never ever too late. Such a beautiful comment. X
SyritasDoneitGoodyTwoShoes
SyritasDoneitGoodyTwoShoes 25 gün önce
really??
Virna Soto Gray
Virna Soto Gray 28 gün önce
😢🥺🥰
Louis Campbell
Louis Campbell Aylar önce
The problem is evident the solution is not. awareness is a step forward thanks for the broadcast
Robin Lynn
Robin Lynn Aylar önce
This is the wisdom our world needs!!! Yes!!! Yes!!!
elisabeth432
elisabeth432 Aylar önce
middle of the conversation, one hour 5 minutes: awareness is consciousness. consciousness is divinity.
Doris Spears
Doris Spears Aylar önce
Life is a cyclone into itself. Always has been. How can it not be? None of us asked to be born....but this unyielding over thinking about self worth is as destructive as how you perceive your threats and your response to them. We need to stop living in our heads/feelings so much. Living THERE is problematic.
Sheila Kirby
Sheila Kirby 2 aylar önce
THE GREATEST THING WE COULD EVER HAVE IN LIFE IS TO HAVE A GOOD CHILDHOOD !!!
Monika Kot
Monika Kot 15 gün önce
🙏😍🎯well put
Anna Mineer
Anna Mineer 17 gün önce
@Jennifer resilient, yes. But some of us are resilient but still trying to self-medicate against the trauma of our childhoods. I've done amazing things, made lots of money survived tragedies, including 2 children dying, yet I still struggle with self worth.
Hummingbird 8700
Hummingbird 8700 21 gün önce
Is your mothers name Helen Kirby?
MethodiousMind
MethodiousMind 23 gün önce
i am, however in this case, the point i was making (badly) is that it’s not your fault. It was a failed attempt at sardony (i know, it’s not a word)
Fresh St♡rt
Fresh St♡rt 24 gün önce
@Lesley Sears you should ask someone who swears by the belief that you do. Its a huge belief in the spiritual community, accepted by many* as absolute truth.
jaimejaime
jaimejaime Aylar önce
God bless this man - he's perhaps making up for his childhood stress by bringing insight to us now.
PANCE_SPORES_ON INSTAGRAM SELLS
PANCE_SPORES_ON INSTAGRAM SELLS Aylar önce
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Shirley Daniels
Shirley Daniels 2 aylar önce
Hes 100 percent right about sitting on anger and being calm on the outside
Art By Hazel🇨🇦
Art By Hazel🇨🇦 Aylar önce
Thank goodness for Dr. Gabor Mate’s work to help heal humanity’s deepest wounds that passed on to us from our ancestors. I love his calming voice and wisdom. Great episode.❤
Vickie Hadd
Vickie Hadd 2 aylar önce
I stayed away from home as much as possible. On my bike and went anywhere I felt like til it was time for dinner. I hated being home. Abusive parents. Couldn’t wait to grow up and get out of there. They treated me better after I left home for good
The Hills of Coomera
The Hills of Coomera 2 aylar önce
Same only they didnt treat me better but, did write to my dad later & he wrote me back... that helped. I started slowly and he wrote back good letters - that was tops.
Lakesha Laky
Lakesha Laky 2 aylar önce
@29:31 that was soooo profound! ❤
Marion Stuart
Marion Stuart Aylar önce
This man drew me to your Chanel I can relate to a lot of what he says and I see clearly my own siblings Much more now I always felt I didn’t fit in rejected put into care when not needed . Family was 100 shades messed up But we still made lives for ourselves we didn’t want to turn out like our parents .
PANCE_SPORES_ON INSTAGRAM SELLS
PANCE_SPORES_ON INSTAGRAM SELLS Aylar önce
👆👆look up that handle, he ships swiftly, and he got shrooms, Dmt, lsd, mmda, psilocybin, chocolate bars, he's got a lot.. 🍄 💊🍄🍫💯🔌.........
HAL_9000
HAL_9000 Aylar önce
My mother died when I was 10 and my father became an alcoholic, I'm 33 now and still haven't recovered.
Joanah N.
Joanah N. Aylar önce
This is an early Christmas gift. I'm an orphan in my 30s, realizing a lot of childhood trauma and family loss still pulls the strings of my life. Thank you both for this exceptional podcast. Transformative to hear.
Cody Johnson
Cody Johnson 22 gün önce
You guys were orphaned. past tense... stop making that define who you are... are you still orphaned? Do you have people around that love and support you?
Cheryl Ann
Cheryl Ann Aylar önce
Ditto, im 58 and the loneliness cuts deeper as the years pass. Im finally reparenting myself in order to heal. I appreciate Gabor Mate so much✨
Radio Psychic Astrology for Insomniacs & Most Cats
Radio Psychic Astrology for Insomniacs & Most Cats Aylar önce
Hi. I'm al'so orphaned, older than you at 47 but without any family now..... It's lonely.
Stephen Jablonsky
Stephen Jablonsky 2 aylar önce
When you enter an airplane and notice that the pilot is ill and terrified of flying you are immediately overwhelmed with fear and dread. So it is with an infant who comes into a family that is not happy and secure. That fear stays with you for decades until you finally recognize where your discomfort is coming from and work on it. Your fear may also be mixed with anger at those who were supposed to make you OK and failed miserably. So there you are at age 54 with fear and anger as the foundation of your emotional condition. It is time to get to work to repair the damage.
Freddy
Freddy 2 aylar önce
First time listening to this Doctor..but hitting the soul already...
So
So Aylar önce
We are all living on a trauma planet. We are all here to heal.
Brad
Brad Aylar önce
Thank you! It’s powerful
Vivre la liberté ! LIBERIAMO LA LIBERTÀ!
Vivre la liberté ! LIBERIAMO LA LIBERTÀ! 2 aylar önce
I read his books i love him
awtmanthe
awtmanthe 2 aylar önce
I keep on writing my fathers passing when I was 21 is nothing because at that age I should have grown up enough for it not to matter but that's all nonsense. There's no right age to lose a parent . I'm 24 now and I still feel like I can't feel this because I'm all grown up yet its so untrue
The Hills of Coomera
The Hills of Coomera 2 aylar önce
We all have only 1 mom or dad. Their passing is like no other, and its very personal... Im 66 now, my dad passed in 2001. Its your special personal one & only Dad who passed away. We think of our parents whether or not theyre still around - more I think - the older we get. These people matter to us and so I'm writing to say - my mom passed when I was almost 7. Dad when I was in my 40's. They are/were and always will be unique to only you in ways you will continue to discover. Welcome to the tribe of people who've outlived their parents. Its a privilege not everyone gets. I'm now (finally) comfortable around my photo frame picture of my mom who was only 43 when she passed. Ive outlived the age she died . Its weird doing that, too. Cheers from Australia
Kelsey Marie Bell
Kelsey Marie Bell Aylar önce
I was listening with the phone in a car pocket/bag and had another video on then this one played next, and I pulled over to see who was talking; did not know his story, know his work, some. RIP Rest In Peace all who were killed then, and are being now, globally. Wishing peace to all and prayers/praying for; thank you for sharing 🙏🏻🇺🇦🇷🇺❤️🙏🏻🕊✌🏻🌎🌍🌏❤️🙏🏻🕊🙏🏻
Kelsey Marie Bell
Kelsey Marie Bell Aylar önce
^ I didn’t know he is Jewish. That is interesting/thinking about hearing his story, not knowing it/this previously. 🇺🇦🇷🇺❤️🙏🏻🕊🌎🌍🌏❤️🙏🏻🕊🙏🏻
Fabian Forth
Fabian Forth 2 aylar önce
Dude, the way you ask questions and guide the conversations is incredible!!!! A couple of times I stopped the video in recognition and went like "Wow, what a brilliant and precisely formulated question!" Besides the deep wisdom of Dr Gabor Maté, this really stood out for me 👍👍🙏Awesome skill you have there - So pleasant to watch your interviews!
Silvia Curioni
Silvia Curioni 10 gün önce
This! I was so impressed by his questions! He nailed every single one! 😮
Anya Flora
Anya Flora Aylar önce
Gabor's amazing son Arron Mate is at the Gray Zone podcast. He is awesome also>
deborahlynnxyz
deborahlynnxyz 2 aylar önce
The powers that be keep everything for themselves except guilt, fear, want hunger, etc... They keep us down.
Katie M
Katie M Aylar önce
I’m a special Ed teacher in California and I absolutely try to use resume informed practices to help kids with autism, ADHD, etc
Viktoria McManus
Viktoria McManus 2 aylar önce
I totally agree with Gobor Mate on the example given about the mother rats raising their children. My other comment was that do to the fact that I was born into a bombed out country in Europe, my mom had more important things to do than to give me the time I needed as a child, she had to be working wherever she could to keep me from starving. People in the USA have no idea what really tough times are and I hope no one ever has to find out what life’s like when you go to bed many nights without food and cry yourself to sleep with hunger pains and a ice cold house in the winter 🥶 I wasn’t old enough to understand war and all the horrible things that happened but I do remember my family and extended family sitting around talking all kinds of negative discussions, I often cried when I heard my mom cry about what to do ? I remember scratching things with my fingernails on the ice that formed on our windows, washing up in ice cold water, going to bed and my body heat couldn’t generate enough heat to keep my teeth from chattering and so on. When we had the Covid lockdown, my friends and neighbors panicked about not having enough toilet paper and other things, all I could think is that was a piece of cake ..imagine if your city wherever you live would be bombed ..there wouldn’t be any stores left to buy anything. My city was 89% bombed. I have learned to adapt and cope with what was at a very young age because I didn’t know any different. I didn’t complain and I never asked to get anything. I pray that none of us will ever have to go through this ..but it could ? The leaders of most countries are not all sane ?
Karen Miely
Karen Miely 3 gün önce
@R S She's right, we don't, even the depression wasn't as bad as WWII & post-war Europe. My mother banged on about the Depression when I was a child but never anything like this woman describes. They didn't starve, they had heat. No comparison. And they were poor. Her mother was an Italian immigrant who never really learned to speak English. She had lost 2 husbands and the 3rd was an arranged marriage thru a marriage broker who didn't tell her he was a violent alcoholic. My grandmother did manual labor, cleaning, cooking, making mattresses even. Took in young Italian male boarders who my sisters and I think might have sexually molested my mother. My mother was emotionally frigid, very sex negative in spite of birthing 6 children herself; held us all at arm's length throughout our lives. Never felt close to her and learned I couldn't really trust her without it all going sideways when I did but in all never heard her mention going to bed hungry and freezing.
M. E. BON
M. E. BON 4 gün önce
@Sju Kay ❤️
M. E. BON
M. E. BON 4 gün önce
@Victoria McManus The crying in your soul is also mine... for the past and more so the present. At 80 I'm finally starting to "get it" what Gabor says. And letting go with lots of tears for present generations in the throws of "childhood narcissism".... complex and liberating at the same time. All the healing that needs to come to a scorched earth which humanity perpetuates since day one. History has recorded it all for us to learn from... if we care to learn.
John Rhodes
John Rhodes 6 gün önce
@R S well what city in Europe was bombed out in recent decades and who did it. How do them shoes fit.
KD123
KD123 6 gün önce
We need to do away with leaders and elected officials. We all vote and there is no elected person. Only a narcissist or an extremely naive person runs for office.
Daniel Craft
Daniel Craft Aylar önce
2 1/2 years old when JFK assassinated. What I remember is the trauma of the event the next couple of years and the sorrow. "Martin Luther" King, RFK, Malcolm X, so on and so forth America has forgotten and wiped from their memories. Virtual Reality the ultimate Escapism, TV and smart phone screen addictions twiddling thumbs and idle hands accomplishing nothing. Call of Duty Fantasyland without a basis in reality shut off in a room or basement. A Call to Duty is a real life part of the game and as Shakespeare wrote All the World's a Stage, the men and woman merely the players. Or something like that.
Fobile Moan
Fobile Moan 2 aylar önce
Dr Gabor Mate's mother's actions to baby Gabor, were unintentionally destructive. What is the difference between unintentional parental destructive behaviour, and intentional destructive behaviour?
Vivre la liberté ! LIBERIAMO LA LIBERTÀ!
Vivre la liberté ! LIBERIAMO LA LIBERTÀ! 2 aylar önce
I m unhappy like a mom But my little girl seems to be so happy. She smile all the time ❤
Houndmother
Houndmother 2 aylar önce
I grew up in an alcoholic family, I'm 64 now. It all started with I'm not good enough. That belief has ruled my life all my life.
Ina Jai
Ina Jai 3 gün önce
@Evelyn G. You're welcome! 😊 Talking about it will make you feel better, I promise. I just booked an appointment with a therapist for later this week. I'm looking forward to it! Maybe you can do the same? 🙏🏼
Neena Me
Neena Me Aylar önce
Childhood Trauma and stress are two def contributing factors… but I truly believe and there is now research being done on diet… the diet of the two parents at the time of conception and the nutrients or lack of in the child’s early development…. Even now the diet and nutrients that can have incredible effects on bi-polar and mental health disorders.
Evelyn G.
Evelyn G. Aylar önce
@Ina Jai thank you
Paula Lane
Paula Lane Aylar önce
Me too! I'm 66. My mother was alcoholic. I feel like I've spent my life trying to please everyone and failed. Never good enough and don't even know why I'm here or if I want to be!
Little Poots Vee Blogs
Little Poots Vee Blogs Aylar önce
@Evelyn G. 💔
Lion Heart
Lion Heart 2 aylar önce
When I was a child I had asthma and various different allergies. My mother left my sister and I and went to Vancouver to live with another man she'd been seeing on the sly when I was nine. My dad was a dunk, and a womanizer who was physically violent towards women in particular. After my mother left we ended up in Tallahassee Florida with a woman named Collette. She took good care of us, fed us better than we had been prior to arriving at her door with my sister. We went to church every Sunday. I think we took piano lessons. She was a school teacher. She put my sister and I into a summer sports camp. After that summer of being separated from both my parents the asthma I had went away, and most allergic reactions disappeared. I understand now that I felt smothered by my parents and the general environment to which I grew. Gabor Mate's work directly correlates to the work of Dr. Bruce Lipton, cell biologist originally. He wrote three books. The Biology of Belief, The Honeymoon Effect, and Spontaneous Evolution, Our Positive Future, and a way to get there from here, which is written with Steve Bhaerman. All three books are very enlightening, especially Biology of Belief. Very powerful!
Shapie Mau
Shapie Mau Aylar önce
I have been following what is termed German New Medicine. Originally developed by Dr Hamer and nearly all human experiences of dis-eases originate from trauma, whether it be physically induced or mentally. Thank you for those books you mentioned. Drs Lipton, Shelton and many other greats understood us perfectly. Best wishes.
Lori alliano
Lori alliano Aylar önce
Things you talk about are real you're right about addiction you're right about the childhood thing makes sense if you're in San Jose California I'd love to come and see you
elisabeth432
elisabeth432 Aylar önce
interesting how this show which seems to be about the results of a toxic, dysfunctional, abnormal society...is sponsored by American Express which represents exactly everything that is wrong and toxic and dysfunctional and abnormal and stressful in society namely slavery and the servitude of humankind to the banking elite. it's a total paradox and misalignment of values. i'm enjoying this conversation, i'm discovering this channel. i've known Maté for several years and love this man (btw, what he says about superficially calm people sitting on their _rage_ is 200% true, in the female world, you'll see that a lot, fake cheerful women, kind of the the reversed Queen of Wands in the Tarot)...but the sponsorship genuinely bothers me. how can a show whose brand is idk in fact but it seems to be quite intimate and vulnerable and authentic (well, it's a diary after all), accept to be given 'a spine' (a notebook so to speak) by the very thing that destroys the very human beings that Maté talks about to such a massive extent? it's problematic to me. other than that, you are great, sir. i'm from France, i don't know you but your questions are good, nice flow, good pronunciation, easy to understand. the sponsor thing is what spoils it. it's like selling your soul to the devil. do you know the harm banks do to people??? are you aware of the true intent behind money energetically and spiritually? it's been created to own our souls, like soul harvesting, a new kind of serfdom, energy stealing, vampirism.
Whats in a name
Whats in a name 29 gün önce
I am from the Netherlands. I agree with your points. Very interesting interviews. But also not fully trutfull
T. Terez
T. Terez 2 aylar önce
OMG, I'm was hearing Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, but when I looked at the video I was surprised to see Mate is not talking to him. Wow, such similar voices, so cool.
Vanessa Morey
Vanessa Morey Aylar önce
The best thing anyone can learn at a young age is that their parents are not, in most cases, worth proving anything to. Do it for yourself, put yourself and your own approval first... if you done your best , that should be enough. Your own opinion should matter more than your dysfunctional sh#tshow of a neurotic parental unit... Screw em.
Debra Girard
Debra Girard Aylar önce
I lived with trauma both physically and mentally. I dissociated. A survival method. It caused issues with relationships. I know that I wasn't made to have a "normal" life. I chose many kinds of social contact, mostly because therapists insisted I join this group or that or try volunteering. I went in full force but ended up feeling like an outsider. It was very painful. I realize I don't need to socialize. Been there done that. Drank a lot. I am not on a cocktail of psych meds anymore. I think forcing some to be outgoing can trigger trauma or be tramatizing in itself. I partied a lot when I was young and I faked being outgoing. Then I broke away. I am far more happier not to be dependent on having a sense of "belonging" to make me happy
Lizzie Higginson
Lizzie Higginson 6 saatler önce
To individually heal we need not compare or judge ourselves with others. Being aware, accepting and loving ourselves will lift us out of our past traumas and pain and enable us to move positively forward. Our lives don’t particularly need to be any kind of way to evolve. Though LOVE and COMPASSION from my understanding are the active force. I’m happy for you that you have come to a more comfortable place in your life. ❤
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